what can we do about our teens to make them more responsible?

Question

how do we deal with teens ruleing our lives ?and why dont all adults stand together in our comunities ?if one goes to our dore to see what is hapening in our area why dont we all and get the upper hand again or can we just not be bothered and leave it to someone else REMBER IT IS ALL OUR PROBLEM

Answer 1

Discipline. One Word Answer....

Answer 2

In brief,send the parents back to school! Most parents have no idea how to drag their offspring up. It should be compulsory that,if you are pregnant and expecting a baby,attendance to educational responsibilities which go with child-rearing should be enforced. By doing social and welfare responsibility classes,parents should have a better idea of what is and is not acceptable behaviour. Also,I believe National Service for all 16-19 year olds should be made compulsory. Additionally,I also believe in bringing back corporal and capital punishment. In schools,kids rule the roost because power has been taken away from the school heads and teachers. A good six of the best and/or the cane is as good as a deterrent these days as it was in mine. Whoever gave kids 'rights' to abuse members of the public and teachers and anyone else in authority was a moron of the first degree. Allowing them to get away with misconduct was the worse step ever made by this useless government. I hope that helps!

Answer 3

National Service!

Answer 4

Good point! But come on, if a kid has problems, it MUST be somebody elses fault and NOT THE PARENTS, right? Ha! I hate people that think that way!

I agree with you, but the sad truth is that most parents don't care about their kids, they only deal with them whenever they have to. The parents are too selfish to sacrifice for their kids and so the kids act out. Then the parents give up, or start blaming somebody else, they blame "society". But, nothing changes with society. There's always been "bad" stuff around, and there always will. Just remember that you can only control YOUR kids. Do the best you can, and hopefully your neighbors will take notice and then the neighbor's neighbors.....

Answer 5

I think its because we aren't treating them consistently enough, at home they are the children, at school we treat them as young adults, and the government just can't make up their mind (a fourteen year old can have an abortion without their parents yet if they play truant from school the parents can be arrested.) I think if we knew what they are then so would they, with my kids I'll tell them that they are children and shall be treated like children until they leave home, that way they won't be trying to act like adults in getting themselves pregnant or going around with weapons. Theory says anyway!

Answer 6

We need to craft a society in which they are neither babied nor thrown to the wolves... in earlier societies, teens were apprentices and journeymen, taking on trades and even starting families. Bar mitzvahs and other cultural ceremonies for 13-ish people were not celebrating teenhood, but adulthood.

Saddle them with work, and tailer their education to mesh with a world that expects something of them- a school day partially in the calssroom and partially in the shop.
Those who excel can still go on to universities, and they would do so with even more experience about the real world.

Answer 7

It all comes down to the parents. Too many kids are coming from broken homes. A lot of kids don't even know who their father is. And the parents are just too lazy to teach their kids right from wrong. If a kid gets in trouble with the law, I think the parent should have to do jail time with them. Maybe that will make parents more responsible.

Answer 8

i am a teen. i think i am responsible. i do my mums shopping without buying things that are not on the list. all you adults say that we are out of hand and i think you should look at those teens who arnt. problems are everywhere not just in teens but in adults aswell. for example adults murder, commit adultery, and do things sometimes that they are ashamed of. i am not saying that every adult does because i know that that is not the truth.

the reason that i respect my mum and dad is not because they rule me with an iron fist but they advise me on wot to do when i do something wrong without sending me to bed without dinner. that would make me not want to tell them anything and cause me to not know how to handle things and cause their life to be a living hell.

i think most of you say that you dont know how to make teens responsible than give them responsibility but also show the that you trust them and remeber that if you smoke and drink or take drugs, then your kids will too.

Answer 9

Chariety begins at home, and the same is true of manners.
Teens learn by example, unless parents, teachers and others expect good behaviour, teach it and set an example how do we expect teens to behave.

Rebellion is part of growing up, but with no guidelines, like bed times, no smoking, no sex....what the hell do teens have to rebel against.....we are allowing them to do everything.

We keep telling everyone about their rights, but no one ever mentions responsibilities.

Dont blame the teens, blame the parents and government

Answer 10

Punish parents of outruly teenagers and the teenages themselves. I am a Primary School teacher and I get so annoyed when parents think that education stops at school or when parents come in a moan at me for punishing their child.

It is the Parents that are to blame - My mother smacked me when I did something wrong and I have no convictions or ASBOS. Just made me respect my elders.

Answer 11

Ah - the answer is in the question, isn't it. To make someone responsible, give them responsibility.

Actually, I feel dead bl**dy sorry for teenagers. Too old to stay in. Too young to go to pubs. There's no such thing as youth clubs anymore. What can they do? Where can they go? They end up hanging about feeling bored and naturally get into trouble. Anyone would. I'm not condoning trouble, of course, but that's where the problem is, I think.