my 12 year old son jered is in 7th grade and at school he has written 15 students a note begging them desperatley for s*x !! he has tried to get 3 students to have s*x with him. and he knows its wrong but he says he cant contain himself? how do i stop him? what should i do?
2006-11-02 09:20:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Get yourself and son an appointment w/your doctor. Go in first and explain it to the doctor and then if need be he will either direct you to someone to see or he will talk w/your son to see if he can figure out what is going on.
I think that he is having problems realizing the boundaries of other people. Sounds very dangerous to me I would do something now and get the help he seems to need. I would not try to handle this by myself as this could escalate to a far worse problem. Ignore this and I believe you will regret it later.
2006-11-02 09:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jered is acting out inappropriately and needs help. It may not even really be about sex. If he has some kind of compulsion to do something he knows he's not supposed to do, that could be the starting point for the therapy, and soon, before he gets ostracized, which could make matters worse. Call your State Office of Mental Health and see if he is entitled to school-funded counseling or Medicaid to help pay for it. I'm not surprised his teachers have not suggested it. Their job is to stick to the budget, not help kids.
2006-11-02 09:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something serious not so much that he is curious about sex but for the fact that he is asking people in school about it. That could lead to sexual harassment and him being expelled from school. As very parent dreads the talk with their kids i think its time to give him the talk. Tell him the facts about sex let him know the consequences of having sex,unwanted pregnancy,stds. Then i would talk to him about masturbation because that is the safest thing. And he is at that age where puberty is coming in full force. Let him know that its OK to do it and much safer. Let him know that he has the privacy to do so in his room,in the shower. But then i would make him start cleaning his own room for sure!
2006-11-02 17:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 05:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with the kid. Sit down and have a talk with him about the realities of sex and its proper role in a healthy and *mature* relationship. Speaking as a teenager I can tell you that schools are absolutely filled with sex, and that type of environment will be harmful to a kid who is acting as yours currently is. You can help him immensely by helping to give him a healthy outlook on sex.
2006-11-02 09:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Fen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to talk with a counselor that can help him learn impulse control. People that don't learn impulse control skills encounter MANY other problems in life.
2006-11-02 09:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try sitting down and haing a good talk to him about the implcations of his actions
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2006-11-02 09:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hire him a hooker but dont tell him. Just get her to go round to your house when your out and seduce him. Explain to her she must frighten him in a nice way.
2006-11-02 09:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by SunGod 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
sit down and talk to your son about Aid/HIV, then if that don't work talk to somebody at his school to see if there help you
2006-11-02 09:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by babygirlnikkibuttercup 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it might be he want to no how it feels
2006-11-02 11:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by drz9kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋