Guests came to wedding but gave no gift. Do I write a thank you?

Question

We had at least 3 people come to our wedding and not give a gift. I have no problem with this, but my question is do we write them a thank you for coming? Just curious on the ettiquette. Thanks!

Answer 1

Yes.....

Answer 2

As far as I know guests have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift. So those 3 people that did not bring a gift to the wedding may still be planning on giving you something. I think it would be a nice gesture to still send them a thank you note for sharing your special day with you!

Answer 3

I had this same experence. I woulda prefered not to ( expeshally since one was there braging about winning the lottery a few months ago & how much they have of the money left ( more then I make in a year!!!) but you gotta write them a thank you note anyways...

Your also sopposed to send thank yous to the dumb people that you didn't invite cause you don't have room & didn't want to piss off the rest of the family cause you couldn't invite ALL the great-aunts & uncles. But they decided to show up & come anyways, & bring a date (not related to you) & not even have the courtisy to give you a freakin gift!!!

Answer 4

I agree that it all depends upon the situation. If they are friends of friends whom you have no solid relationship with, don't sweat it. If you like these people and enjoyed having them there, thank them for "sharing in your special day". I had many guests at my wedding that didn't give us gifts, for financial reasons, etc, but it didn't bother me. I still sent them the same photo thank yous as everyone else and even provided them with some of the wedding photo prints that included them.

I think it'd be a nice gesture on your part. Ultimately, it isn't about the gifts, it's about the marriage, and that's what everyone was there to share with you. (although the gifts are nice to get!)

Answer 5

What th-! That's preposterous! You don't thank people for attending! You thank them for a gift. Don't be too hasty to write them off, though. Theoretically, they have a full year in which to give you a wedding gift, so you may see one later (or not). If they do, that's when you thank them - ideally, within 10 days of receipt of the gift.

Edit: Wow, I can't believe how ignorant your respondants are of the social niceties. If you had to thank everyone who attended, you'd be writing well into next year! It is customary to thank only those who gifted you, period. And some posters are confusing the wedding with the reception. Anyone can attend a wedding, but invitees are expected to give a gift - not necessarily on the wedding day, as I said earlier. Only those specifically invited to the reception may attend. In other words, the guest list for the reception is much shorter than the list for the wedding invitations.

Still unsure? Check out Emily Post:

Answer 6

Yes, you write them a thank you card. Say thank you for sharing our special day with us.

And don't assume they didn't give a gift. They might have pooled money with someone else, and that other person forgot to include their names. And even if they didn't give a gift, remember that a gift is not required of a wedding guest. But they should still be thanked for being there for you.

Answer 7

I was just having this same problem, I thought I should write them a thank you card but then when you sit down to do it, it's like well...........what do I write to fill up this little card, " Thank you for sharing in our special day" ......Then what. I hate to say no don't write them a thank you card but if you do they might think you are trying to make them feel guilty for not sending a gift, which isn't what you are actually intending to do, you just want to be polite but trust they won't see it like that. So as hard as it might be I wouldn't send them a thank you card just in case, UNLESS they did something that helped you out greatly during your wedding in which case then yes. but if not then I wouldn't do it

Answer 8

When you attend a party, do you usually expect your hostess to write you a letter thanking you for attending? Of course you don't! It is the guests who thank the hostess, not the other way around.

The exception is those guests who are so thoughtful as to bring the hostess a gift of some sort. Party or no party, one should always send a thank you letter when one receives a gift.

Answer 9

No, you do not send a thank you note to people just for coming. That looks like you are fishing for a gift that has not yet been received.

You send thank you notes for gifts and for deeds of generosity (like cousins that helped decorate for the reception or something like that). Not for people just showing up, as you invited them to do.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

Thank you notes are written to thank people for gifts they have given you. Your favor at your wedding should have included a note thanking them for sharing your special day with you.