A friend is orchestrating an elaborate proposal to her boyfriend. I am a bit of the old fashioned type. I think that the masculine partner should do the asking. I am saying as liberally as possible to include in an LGBT situation(although not the current situation). Does it seem like an act of despiration? I think the guy will get mad, like she's stealing the glory of the proposal.
2006-11-02 09:14:05 · 15 answers · asked by Yisrael Chai 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My sister asked her husband, he told her, very nicely, that it wasn't the way he wanted it to be done. He asked her properly shortly after. This was 15 years ago, they're very happy with 2 children. I brought it up to once a few years ago, and it seems she chooses not to remember the original proposal -Hee.
It's a good way for your friend to let her boyfriend know what she wants though. I hope it works out for her!
2006-11-02 09:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because alot of fellows this present day and age are dedication phobic. some women have taken the call to advise to the guy. If it is been extremely some years i ought to be sure this some months i would not even hardship asking you may seem desperate. i think of a good ring could be good or maybe something he has wanted say like a PS3 or an XBOX360 say honey will you marry me and hand him the hot activity console. If i grew to become right into a guy i could be like hell sure i'm going to to marry a women that cares adequate to purchase you what you like thats a keeper.
2016-12-28 11:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by frahm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It stinks, but you're right.
Men are not the ones who are biologically destined to settle down. They can always move on without the resulting kids!
Men have to be the ones,
though women can broach the subject to get a feel for whether the relationship is worth continuing.
But not carry out a proposal.
2006-11-02 09:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men wont be offended, and some will. Just as some women may say no its not right and others will say go ahead. Me personally, I would go for it. However, in the essence of saving face, I know my fiance wanted to ask me and when I was playing around and pretended to ask him- he said that was his job- shortly thereafter he asked me to marry him.
It really depends on the couple and if the man would take offense to it or not. If they have been in that relationship for an extended amount of time and it isnt progressing, she should really sit down with her boyfriend to see if he even would think about bringing it to the next level.
The worst thing that can happen to her would be that she plans the elaborate scheme just to be turned down, possibly in front of someone else. If he thinks the relationship may go somewhere and she is intent on asking him- I think she should ask.
2006-11-02 09:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by mixedchick4blkguys 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have to agree with you. I think most men want to be the one doing the asking. It seems a bit emasculating for the woman to propose to the man.
2006-11-02 16:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man thinks of marriage as a partnership it really won't matter (the partner can make suggestions/decisions too). You may have hit on an excellent way of determining if a man doesn't think of marriage as a partnership.
As for myself, I was always shy and not a bit uncomfortable when my (future) wife brought up the subject.
2006-11-02 09:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by BobbyD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you a man should do the asking when it comes to marriage. Your friend does seem very desperate, the guy will probably say NO and hurt your friends feelings, your friend is setting herself for a big heart break. She is living in a fantacy world.
2006-11-02 09:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a bit old fashioned as well, but if your friend wants to ask her man, then good for her!! Supporting her is the best thing that you can do. I would rather have something elaborate set up for me, but if that floats her boat, so be it...
2006-11-02 09:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think yes, it's an act of desperation. I've always felt that if I had to "chase" the guy in any way - asking him out, asking him to get married, etc - that simply was because he wasn't sufficiently interested himself. Guys who are interested WILL chase the girl.
2006-11-02 09:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I want to be the one who gets proposed to. I think "will you marry me' are words that all women want to hear, why miss out on the joy of that?
2006-11-02 12:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋