My fiance and I have merged two houses together and we really are content with what we have. However we'd really love to go on a simple honeymoon and perhaps cash donations would help out. Is it appropriate to put that on the invitation? Or should I just include an small insert stating our wishes? Help...only have until end of Nov. to figure it out.
2006-11-02 09:13:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's an insult to your guests to tell them what gift to give you. Don't register at any stores. If they have questions as to what to give you, they will ask. Then it's okay to let them know what you have planned.
2006-11-02 09:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't put it on the invitation or use an insert. It's tacky and serious breach of wedding ettiquette. If anyone tells you that they put the info on the information on invite and no one was offended, then they are either lying, too oblivious to notice or care that they were rude, or no one confronted them about it.
Leave off all information about gifts, and don't register anywhere. Most people bring checks or cash anyway.
Another alternative is to register for a honeymoon. There are numerous companies that do this. Guests make donations to the fund or can purchase specific things (a night out for dinner, for example). But let this registry spread by word of mouth.
2006-11-03 09:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do some research into travel agencies that offer Honeymoon registeries. This is a nice way to let guests know what you want without just asking for "cash"
Also - gift information should never be on a wedding invitation. A bridal shower invitation carries the expectation of a gift, so providing that information is oksy but a wedding invitation DOES NOT come with the expectation of a gift so it is considered poor manners to put gift information on the invitation.
Instead, the proper thing to do is let your close friends and family know were you are registered, and ask them to spread the word:)
2006-11-02 18:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER NEVER iclude anything about gifts in anything you send you guests, it is even considered bad ettiquette to include a card with where you are registered. Ask your parents (if they are hosting) and your wedding party to spead the word if they are asked what you would perfer as gifts. There are sites online where you can set up a registary for people to donate toward you honeymoon costs. Of course if people ask you directly a response of "We already have all the things we need, but anything to help with a nice get-away would be lovely" or something similar would be appropriate. Thios opens the doors for cash as well as items like new luggage.
2006-11-02 18:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by DanielleNichole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar boat - my fiance and I are hoping to go into the Peace Corps after we are wed and its silly get get "stuff" when we won't have anywhere to put it for 2 years!
Two suggestions: The first is to just not register anywhere. People are bound to ask questions of friends, family and yourselves, and you can say (and instruct others to say) that, since you already are combining two households you don't have a need for anything additional, but if they would like to give a gift then money would be appreciated.
Second, you can actually register for a honeymoon - no joke! Say you want to go on a cruise - you can register at a travel agent for said cruise and when people call they can either put money toward it or book things like massages or wine for you. It is DEFINITELY appropriate for people to know where you registered (obviously) so this is the easiest way to get what you are looking for.
2006-11-02 17:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dovelette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its never appropriate because a gift is a gift is to be accepted and you cant tell the people what to take instead get the decorative box by the cake and make some little kid walk around and ask if they would like to contribute. you can also have a new tradition start for example in Mexico we have the dance of the dollar where whoever wants to waltz with you has to pin a dollar or more to your dress same goes for the groom.or you can also walk around with you veil and make it part of the wedding.it has worked for many generations in our family. also only tell family members that you want money don't tell friends even if they are close friends.
2006-11-02 17:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by cosita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just don't do it - tactfully or otherwise. It is rude and not done. You should be paying for your honeymoon yourselves.
People you ask as guests to your wedding are there to celebrate with you. They really are not required to bring gifts, but most do - and choose something they would like the couple to have. It is not their fault you have all your stuff already. Just let it go, and let people gift you as they would like. It is just so tacky to ask for money!
2006-11-02 19:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this idea is a starting point,t hen maybe you can brainstorm closer to the answer.
I'm thinking a registry with only vacation-oriented items makes sense.
Many people only give cash anyway, so if the registry confuses them, they'll get the idea.
Like I said, this is probably not the exact answer, but may lead to a good one!
Good luck, and remember
your love and your marriage supercede the details!
2006-11-02 17:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We did that for our wedding. Look up Wishing Well on net. They are poems put together to send with your invites asking for money in a tasteful way. We had 150 guests and most gave money and said they found it a relief as they never know what to buy for a gift.
2006-11-02 19:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Kylie P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, do not put that, that sounds awful. What a lot of people do including myself is you can go to a party rental store and rent a wishing well. Print this poem up and place it on or near the wishing well, also include a pen and envelopes. You can decorate the well too. We received a lot of money for this, and people know what its for and they'll do it. Hope it helps, here is the poem . . .
This wishing well is here today for family and friends. Take an
Envelope, make a wish and please drop it in. As it falls into the
Well, your wish for the couple, will come true. A token for the
Couple, to help them begin, will be welcomed, too. Please take the
Time to make a wish before the day is through.
2006-11-02 17:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Wonderious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since gifts are optional, you should never specify gifts. In particular for a wedding invitation, specifying is inappropriate. I would register at a store that will take returns. That way you can always convert your gifts to cash if necessary. Be gracious always.
2006-11-02 17:22:20 · answer #11 · answered by united9198 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋