I've heard that codependent people never heal. I've heard that codependency is a disorder you have to learn to control all of your life, just like alcoholism. Is it true that codependen people have to be "aware and alert" always, orhewrwise they will "fall" again?
2006-11-02 09:08:21 · 3 answers · asked by Mardesal 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have seen people resolve their co dependancy by transfering their additction to something else, aclohol, drugs, even sex, for the feeling of closeness to another person. The first step from my understanding is to reslove the addictive personality. Usually when one has an addiction it is from a traumatic experience, first exposure to something and trying to relive that experience, or simply a predisposition to dependancy. That is what the therapy should focus on, the underlying issue, not the symptom of co dependancy.
2006-11-02 09:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Yisrael Chai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with issues of codependency can heal. It will take time, energy, dedication and hard work on thier part. Healing will not happen overnight, but it can happen.
It involves getting to a place where someone does not see others as one-up or one-down in relation to themselves....
2006-11-02 13:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-09 01:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by lot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋