do u expect your child/teen to stay a virgin until they marry?

Answer 1

realisticly.....nope.....I expect that when they feel they are in love they will jump at the chance to "express" their love. i just hope they use protection, cause I don't want any grandbabies!!!

Answer 2

Nope.
My son is 16 now and still a virgin. We've always had an open, honest relationship with each other about everything: sex, drugs, politics, family weirdness, etc. My job as a parent is to protect and educate, but he's a whole person (always was) and he is ultimately responsible for his body, actions and life. Since he's always known this, and I've never held back any information like, hey, drugs are FUN - that's why people do them! Sex is GREAT -but usually not at first. There are risks with everything, and it's my job to make sure he understands those risks thoroughly so he can make an informed decision when the time comes.

By the way, sex is a decision. Decide what you want BEFORE you get into the situation and take responsibility for that decision, or you're likely to end up in hot water.

Answer 3

As much as every parent would like their child to stay a virgin until marriage, times have changed. People and their life choices are much more evolved. 20 years ago, it was frowned upon to be a single 30-something, let alone a single parent. In some instances I think sex before marriage might save a few divorces as stupid as that may sound. I think society has put such an emphasis on sex that it now is becoming an everyday thing. It is almost a channel of communication between parents and teens now-a-days. So the answer...no, realistically I do not expect my children to stay virgins until they are married. I expect them to make good choices, be respectfull and be aware of the recourses that may come of the choices they make.

Answer 4

Absolutely not, that would be unrealistic.

What IS expected is when you feel it is time, that it may happen soon, go to an adult you trust and let them know you want birth control. This person could help you with the next step.

Dont be irresponsible and play russian roulette with the rest of your lives. No birth control is 100% effective, so you better ask yourself every single time "Do I want this person to be my childs father/mother?" Not to mention the AIDS factor.....oh, then theres herpes, genital warts...

If you cant run with the big dogs, stay on the porch.

Answer 5

While i think you should tell your children to wait in todays society its probably not going to happen. I believe you should inform your child of all risk of having sex,inform them on safe sex also. There are so many pressures to have sex now a days that most likely they are going to do it before they get married no matter what morals you install. Unless you keep them so sheltered that they have no social skills at all. (this happened to my cousin her parents raised her so christian that she can barely function in society.) Do i expect it from my kids? No. Would i like them to make that choice?Yes.

Answer 6

I expect what my child gives me to his or her own best.

Virginity is a chioce and doesn't mean they are bad kids to me if they have premarital sex.

Be hyporcritical of me to say they should when I didn't. As long as they are in love, happy and safe, I would respect their choice to the best ability I can.

Answer 7

No. If we were technologically simple and could actually afford to marry and live on our own at 16, as in the old days,
Of course I would!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But, asking people to delay their natural procreative processes by 16 or 20 years is tantamount to creating raving lunatics and murderers.
No, I'd rather bring back the multi-generational household than do that.

Answer 8

I hope so but realistically, I would never expect it. It doesn't matter what morals you instill in a child, if they choose to have sex before marriage, it is their decision. I just hope I can make them responsible enough about it to make good decisions and wait until they are ready.

Answer 9

i have two boys. i will certainly be encouriging them to treat females with respect and not to use girls to get a bit of sex. No I don't expect them to be virgins when they marry, but I hope they get their dad's values and treat women with respect and never pressure them for sex.

Answer 10

I don't expect them to remain virgins until they marry, but I hope they will wait until they are in adulthood and ready emotionally. I will be very disappointed if they have sex while still in high school. (I may be speaking prematurely as said children are not yet born.)

Answer 11

My children are very young so I don't even want to think about that yet. But I would have to say no, I don't. I just want them to be happy and be safe.