My husband wants another baby in like 3 or 4 years. In three or four years I wanted to go back to school and get a degree, or just work part time, until the kids are out of school. I pull my own weight with the kids, but I'm 20 and I have only had a job working for an automotive business. That's it. I'd like to move into a bigger house later on, and I would work to pay for the mortgage. Another baby would set off the plan. What should I do, He makes good money, but I want to move into a bigger house, and this is our first one. We need the space with two growing children and growing amounts of toys. We can build this house to make it bigger, but I rather move into a wide open neighborhood with a built in park in it. I'm not being selfish, I just want my family to have love and grow in a great enviroment like both of our parents made sure we did. What should I do?
2006-11-02 08:41:13 · 9 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I've spoken to him about this and he is very serious about this
2006-11-02 08:49:56 · update #1
it's just I want to be there for the children, incase they need me to pick them up from school and all of that. I don't see me having another child. I always said that, and seeing the look on his face just kills me. He doesn't see how horrible I am without any sleep? No sex? Big belly? My daughter is in pain because of torticollis and she wakes up once through the night, every night. I am so miserable, and another baby with a 7 yr old and a 5 yr old?
2006-11-02 08:58:03 · update #2
Pray my friend Pray!
Here's a verse for you:
Phil 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;
2006-11-02 09:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have some nice long range goals in mind. Have you told your husband about them and how important they are to you? Try having a nice quite talk after the kids go to bed. Ask him what goals or what picture he has of a family 5 yrs from now. Something non accusatory like "If you could you could picture us in 5 years, what would that picture look like?" See if there is some middle ground and work from there.
2006-11-02 08:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Husband needs instant gradification in the form of another child. Introduce him to the idea that the two children here need their Daddy and that you have goals in mind that you would like to share with your family. Twenty years old and already you have two children, Treat yourself to a life other than just a mommy, your family will get the best you can give if you first give to yourself.
2006-11-02 08:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by ava_weis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my personal opinion is that he needs to understand that your the one that would be carrying the baby and your the one that it takes alot out of. side with the man. even tell him "look, im proud of you that you want a nice big family it shows what a great person you are but we are going to need to make a compromise" whats wrong with making a comprimise? maybe see about getting birth control pills or whatever so it doesn't happen on accident and you could say how about we start trying in five years? in seven? etc. he cant say thats to long..your married to the man you guys have FOREVER...
thats just my opinion but i think it could work if you go about it the right way. remember SIDE with him and make him feel good and slip that little "but" in easily.
have a great night and good luck!
Kristy
2006-11-02 09:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh My God you 20 and have 2 kid!!! You have so00 much time to have kids!! You can easly put off having any more kids and get a degree. However I would sajest trying to take some parttime classes now and and you might not have to put off having kids in four years. But What ever you do, Do it for you.
Good Luck
2006-11-02 08:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by psifigirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A house is just that a house. What makes a home is a happy family? I understand that you want a bigger house, but its just material things.
2006-11-02 08:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss your concerns with him about another child and how important it is to you to go back to school. hopefully you can come to an agreement as to when the best time for another child would be for the both of you. good luck!
2006-11-02 08:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by atruddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you set down with your hubby and told him all of this? If not maybe you should. If you have maybe you should try to compremise
2006-11-02 08:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by misera1013 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to tell him how you feel.
2006-11-02 08:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋