im a senior in highschool.i have liked this one guy on and off since middle school & he has liked me too.ive told him many many times randomly that i like him and he never has given me a strait answer if he thinks something could work or not. we've always considered ourselves good friends yet we dont really talk too often. i have dated other guys over the years but it doesnt usually last long.& this guy hasnt really settled on one girl either. i stop liking them and always fall back to that one guy. its incredibly frustrating and i've pissed off quite a few guys by making them fall for me then changing my mind completely.
So, my question: should i just ask him out and hope we can talk through it & develop something there? or
just drop it completely & if so...how? haha.
im scared this could be a Huge regret by next year if i dont figure this out soon.
2006-11-02 08:37:28 · 14 answers · asked by Questionnn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good Lord woman! Before I finished reading this, I already knew you shouldn't get into this relationship in that capacity, just be friends and let it be, perhaps later in the future w/o pushing things, maybe things will change, maybe. If he was interested, he would've let you know already. Obviously, in his subtle way, he is not interested, get a clue! You say he still dates other girls, well, that should be enough to tell you he's still not ready or willing to commit to a relationship. By all means, don't force a relationship! Relationships should be easy, mutual and wonderfully exciting.
2006-11-02 08:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by lisa z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me and I wrote him a letter and he made it clear he wasn't interested. Thats when I could finally let go
We met in 9th grade, dated for 3 months, and broke up...we had stayed friends all through high school and every time I was with someone I would compare them to him and when things went sour Iwould wish Iwas with him etc.. We even stayed friends after I wrote him the letter my Sr year. Then 3 years later he basicly came back into my life durrign a time where my bf now and I were having a HORRILBE rough patch and broke up.... LONG STORY... so he spent every night next to me consouling me and telling mehe loved me and crap... Then we kissed and thats when I knew it would never work. I knew I didn't love him now and I wanted The man I am with (for 2 years now)...
He was my fall back and when I fell back on him years later he wasn't what I wanted. But I was glad I found out.
His reaction will make all the difference.
2006-11-02 16:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by xxkittenluvxx143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only a senior in high school...I would say drop it. If he hasn't given you a straight answer by now, he is unsure and maybe even not interested. You will be either going to work or off to college next year...you need to focus on those things and enjoying yourself. I wouldn't worry about settling too much until you are in your early 20's. Give yourself a few years to hang with your girl friends...you have the rest of your life to find a guy and be tied down to one...it's not always that great...and once your girl friends are gone...trust me you miss them!!!
2006-11-02 16:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by frustrated 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When in doubt do nothing 'Stand back and declare "Peace Be Still". Don't move to the left, right, back or forward. We're always in a rush for the answer never willing to wait for it patiently. He probably see you going with those guys and feel that you're too much for him maybe he needs to see you alone for a few months.
2006-11-02 16:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by smartbluewater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember "Clueless" when Cher realized that she was in Love
with Josh well maybe this guy will eventually snap and realize he
wants to be with you. Keep on being friends and if he plays at
Sports, go watch him play. If you see him in public and can sit with him without being a nuisance to other company then do it
Sit down and just talk about things, "Hey, What'cha doin?"
2006-11-02 18:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mailman Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tough.i wouldve told u to tell him but if that hasnt worked then i dont kno.but u shouldnt seem desperate.dont ask him anymore.maybe u guys r just freinds.tell him if u think ull regret it.just be like i like u,u wanna go out or not.i cant be wasting time on u.tell me how u feel
2006-11-02 16:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by *~Love?~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to talk to this guy and get it out of your system, on one hand he could totally reject you, that is okay you are young there are plenty of opportunities to meet other men, on the other hand you could have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with him///
2006-11-02 16:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK U NEED TO JUST SEE IF HE IS WILLING TO SEE WHAT IS THERE. IF SO GO 4 IT IF NOT THEN DROP IT AND KEEP DATING YOU'LL FIND MISTER RIGHT ONE DAY. U HAVE A LONG TIME FOR THAT.
2006-11-02 16:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by ROSIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not ready for commitment. You could casually ask him out and see where it takes you. Don't get too pushy.
2006-11-02 16:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him, say HEY. WE NEEDA TALK.
Get it all settled. Go out with him if you have to.
That will help you get over him.
If that is what you want.
2006-11-02 16:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋