I am 24 years old and have been with my fiance' for over 2 years now, and I used to have a very active libido, but it has tapered off to nothing. Now sex seems like a chore, and even when I do get into it, it is never as good as it used to be no matter how hard he tries. This happened with my ex boyfriend as well, but I was also losing feelings for him, which is not the case at all with my current fiance'. I find him attractive, I feel loved, and we have a great relationship. He is kind, never greedy in bed and makes me very happy. I am wondering if I am just bored with our current situation since we hve been together so long? Anyone else experience this? What can I do to get back to normal? I miss being the way I was, and I want to have my libido back, just every trick in the book fails. Any tips?
2006-11-02 08:37:17 · 7 answers · asked by pixie_vixen117 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To add, actually our love has gotten deeper. We have grown more fond of each other and overall, care for each other more then usual.
To say to have an affair or 3 some is absurd for me. I believe its hormonal or stress related problem, not his fault. It may temporarily fix the problem for that sexual experience, but not fix our overall problems at hand, which is something wrong with my hormones or my stress level.
2006-11-02 08:56:06 · update #1
my younger girlfriends complain about this 2 ..they said ..they think it is just too much sex early on in life ..and now they seemed bored..I dunno when I was this age I was same way and i didnt even have lots of sex ..it was not that important to me ..no clue what the reason.
2006-11-02 08:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 19:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are experiencing the fading of lust. It is a proven fact that we all have lust at the beginning of an relationship, that lust tapers off during the first two years. Usually a deeper love takes over and the sex, although not as intense, is very satisfying. It appears that you really love the feelings of lust, but are having a difficult time with developing a deeper love.
You can either have an affair, and the lust will return and your fiance will reap the benefits. Or you can bring in a third party into your relationship.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-11-02 08:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Examine the relationship, is there something in it that may be stifling your libido?
If that fails to work, examine the possibility of physical or hormonal causes of declining libido.
Or maybe the fire is just not there in your relationship any more...
It is also possible thjat you have no fire becaus there is such a comfortable relationship. Maybe you have gotten lazy or take the relationship for granted?
2006-11-02 08:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Axeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to Say you are just bored. Try spicing it up with some new games or toys. Sex can be very boring if it is always the same that Way you make it interesting.
2006-11-02 08:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to make the relationship as it was in the beginning ... Maybe the newness kept it sexy...
Maybe you need a break and date other guys...
2006-11-02 08:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if youre down, you should go for a threesome. it will make it more exciting for both of you.
2006-11-02 08:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by kristeenuhh20 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋