Should I feel bad because I told my ex that we could not be friends after we broke up? I mean she dumped me and said she still wanted to be friends, but I told her that right now it would be really hard for me to keep it on a friend level so I could not be friends right now, maybe in the future, until I get over her???
2006-11-02 08:36:57 · 19 answers · asked by Clrcut27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no don't feel bad
2006-11-02 08:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by bor_rabnud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to let you go completely, that's why she still want to "be friends" she want to keep an eye on you. How does she expect for you to get over her if you don't have space away from her. The worst part about any break up is the thought of your ex "with" someone else. She wants you to keep your mind on her until she can move on, that way you can never be "with" someone else. I would give her a taste of her own medicine. And take her up on that friends offer, but only after you get you a cute little rebound.
2006-11-02 16:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by thecraved1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not rude. It's honest if you can't be friends with her then you can't be friends with her. Because most of the time when you tell someone you can still be friends you don't really mean it any way or you think they will give you time to move on, but then they don't. I had an ex that I told we could be friends but he thought that meant we could be just like we were when we were dating that wasn't what I wanted so I had to tell him we couldn't be friends.
2006-11-02 16:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Leah * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Being friends after a break up is a myth. She broke up with you, which means she had her eye on somebody else. So forget her. Although noone says it, you are in a race now, a race to find a significant other before she does. She has a head start since she knows who she wants. Get busy gettin busy.
2006-11-02 16:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by outlaw_tattoo_biker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a great manly decision. B/C believe me it is not possible to be friends w/ someone u love, If u give in u will never get over her and healing would be even harder!!!! I commend U and I wish u the best of luck.
2006-11-02 16:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by HIGHLY FAVORED 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt the same way. find another girl and make her jelous, that's what I do. It is extremely gratifying when that girl comes back and wants to date you again and you're like "hail naw you are obviously a shallow person so why would I want to get back with you?" and at that point you spring the "let's just be friends" line on her. check and mate. hahahahaha
2006-11-02 16:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by T-Luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's an idiot if she thinks you can just "get over it". If it was the other way around she'd be pissed. Good for you, you don't need as a friend either, you should date her sister or best friend for spite, always helped me get over an ex.
2006-11-02 16:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by brett.brown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"we can still be friends" thats just another line in the book even if you told her yea you would be her friend after that fact i bet she wouldnt talk to you i think you did the right thing if you still had feelings for her then it would just make things worse
2006-11-02 16:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by mija~chula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You need space man. It takes time, get yourself together. Tell her you have plenty of friends. I can never be friends until I meet someone else, because there are usually lingering fellings.
2006-11-02 16:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need time to heal and yes get over her!!! And then maybe you can try to be friends with her!!! Good Luck
2006-11-02 16:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should not feel bad about it. you were being honest in expressing your emotions. she hurt you and then tried to make you feel better by offering to be friends and did not take into account that you are angry and hurt.
if and when you are ready to be friends it will come - bu don't feel bad about being true to your feelings.
2006-11-02 16:40:19 · answer #11 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋