me and my boyfriend were having a normal conversation over the phone.( we love each other and care about each other a lot. and we absolutely hate being separated.) he told me he was going to australia for a month. (why? don't ask) and that just devastated me i could not speak i didn't know wut to say. he was trying to get me to talk but i couldn't i had no idea wut to say at all. i couldn't imagine being separated from him for that long. he kept trying to get me to talk over and over again but i was seriously in shock. and now he says he feels alone. its so confusing, he's making me feel like its my fault i was so devastated. he said he wanted to talk to me but i wouldn't answer. (i couldn't answer!) so now he feels alone, how do i make him feel like he's not alone?
2006-11-02 08:28:36 · 15 answers · asked by buttercupbaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he didn't leave yet
2006-11-02 08:37:18 · update #1
talk to him a month isn't that long. the worst thing to do is sweep it under a rug. enjoy the time you will spend with him until then and then you will really enjoy when he comes home. look on the bright side, at least he is not being deployed into war. that would be even worse. take what you can.
2006-11-02 08:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by T-Luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is in Australia already and is telling you he is alone. He may be trying to let you down easy and planning to move on. If he is still state side and saything this, he is trying to get some attention from you. Apologize for not knowing what too say, tell him you were in shock at the idea of being seperated from him for so long. Not knowing why he is going poses a problem. Sometimes seperation is good for a relationship. Be willing and open to what may happen. Life goes on no matter what. Good Luck
2006-11-02 08:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to express your feeling to him...tell him how you feel....tell him the thought of him leaving to Australia devastated you...but really 1 month is not that long...and if your relationship is as strong as you say you shouldn't have any problems.....but you not talking to your man is only making this worst....
2006-11-02 08:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats seems like a lot for you to take in. He needs to understand that if he leaves it is going to have an affect on you. And you are entitled to have you own feelings about it. I think he is having a lot of issues about leaving and is projecting them onto you, because he doesn't know what to do. Plus, he probably feels bad about leaving you so if he can make it seem like you did something to him, he can get rid of that guilty feeling.
2006-11-02 08:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not usually & certainly not with someone I don't trust & know quite well. I'm glad though that you feel better & the argument has been resolved, so it's nice to know that talking about things can really make a difference.
2016-05-23 19:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to him how u felt that very moment he said that to you!!! Tell him that you were just so shocked and hurt that you guyz would be seperated for so long!!!! tell him that he is not alone and that you r so attached to him there were just nothin you could have said to let him know how much you were going to miss him!!! If he still feels "alone" then he's just playin games and wants you to kiss his butt!!! lol but really!!!
2006-11-02 08:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch! And explain to him how you feel about it, and why you have trouble talking about it. But don't try to change his mind about going. You'll regret it later. I think that communication is the answer.
2006-11-02 08:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by MandieGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should supported his trip to austrailia. you might be able to stay in contact with him by web cam which would make you two feel closer. i think this is something that will test your relationship. if you really love each other and were meant to be together. it will work out.
2006-11-02 08:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made a choice, now he feels alone? How about your feelings?Poor baby! Quit changing diapers for him!
2006-11-02 08:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. tell him that u got sad cuz he is leaving u for a month and u wud miss him, try to get to him closer than b4
2006-11-02 08:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♥babygurl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋