I am afraid of getting too intimate with someone and then having to be around them on a day-to-day basis. That probably doesn’t make any sense, but that is the only way that I can think to explain it. I have this slight fear of giving my all to someone. That is it I am afraid of being in love. I am not too concerned about getting my heart broken; I am just scared to open up to someone. Is that a contradiction of what I just typed? I think it is, but oh well. I don’t really have much to say on this topic, but I was thinking about it and I wanted to write about it.
2006-11-02 08:27:41 · 6 answers · asked by The one who knows 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are plenty of people who feel the way you do, trust me, you are not alone. I'm not saying that you should be intimate with every guy that you choose to date, but you shouldn't be afraid of being intimate just because you don't want to be around them everyday. It seems like have a hard time getting close because you aren't willing to open up. I used to have this problem. I had been in so many relationships that were meaningless and I got to the point where I didn't want to open up at all, in fear of being hurt again. This put a barrier between me and my current boyfriend because he felt that I was hiding something from him. Once I opened up to him, our love grew stronger and we now have a bond that no one can break. My advice to you is to stop being afraid of love and open up. Love is about taking risks, you risk your heart because you give it to someone and its up to them to take care of it and hopefully not break it ;). In the end, love is worth the risk. TAKE A CHANCE, GIRL!!!
2006-11-02 08:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I've had my heart broken before and I am so afraid to fall in love again.
U need to be confident in yourself, think that u are the best there is and if someone can't treat u like u want to be treated they move along. There are many fishes in the sea.
2006-11-02 16:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by babyJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone feels this way. It is scary at first but if your really in love take a chance. I was afraid in the begining but now I'm glad I took a chance I've been married for 13 years and I still Love waking up next to my husband.
2006-11-02 16:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by mom2one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, everyone feels like that at some point. It is normal to want to protect yourself. Just make sure there is not a deeper issue, but chances are good it is just a natural fear of heartbreak.
2006-11-02 16:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't fear it — I'm just adamantly opposed to it. There's no point AT ALL. You're doing the right thing. If you're going to give your all to someone, let that someone be yourself.
2006-11-02 18:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
giving your all is a big step and I know that we all need time for ourselves and being in a 24/7 relationship is a killer.
2006-11-02 16:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Varacha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋