Whats the best way to approach a woman & get her # in public places like a mall, grocery, bar or coffee house?

Question

In the past, when I've successfully met potential romantic interests its always been because I already had a reason to speak to her (i.e. a waitress will finish serving you and you'll say "oh, and one more thing" and ask for her number, or someone working in a bookstore, etc). But, how do you go up to a complete stranger that you have absolutely no reason to say anything to and walk away with her number. Everyone is so skidish and scared of being approached by a stranger these days. How do you approach a woman on the street without her running away and looking at you crazy. It's easy to do it in a bar or club, because women are expecting it. It's completely different to do it in public. Give me some feedback.

Answer 1

day game... the best way to approach and pick up women in day venues (malls, street, stores, etc) is to open with a nuetral opener. of course, your look, perfume and smile are absolutely important. you already said youre a handsome guy. smile on approach, and start up the convo about something that doesnt imply youre attracted to her. display your sense of humor in response to what she says.

at this point, usually the interaction is over, and this is what makes day game harder than clubs. you have to say something to buy the next 3 minutes of their time. youre already a charming, good looking guy, and youve already broken the ice. now you need to hook her or else shes going to move on to whatever she was doing before

this is the point where you demonstrate value, the best way to do this is to reveal something to her about herself that you observed from the convo. women love hearing about themselves. learn body language. tell her something about her smile or her energy or how she moves her eyes or a nervous tick she has that reveals something about her personality. at this point you still havent said anything about her looks, but youre observing her inner qualities. really get into the habit of observing people, and read up on body language and personality truisms

once youve hooked her, talk about yourself in a way that displays your value. dont brag about your wealth or status, tell a story of something that happened or somebody she reminds you of, but in the story give her a glimpse of your lifestyle and the kind of things you enjoy. then ask her open ended questions that allows her to reveal her qualities and values to you

to get the number and follow up date, somewhere in the story or the conversation, mention some place you life going to or are planning to go to soon, like a bar, restaurant, party or upcoming event, and make sure you tell her how great that place/event is. as youre winding down (probably 15-25 minutes in) you have to imply that you need to leave or get back to whatever you were doing. tell her "it was really fun talking to you, actually, i was gonna go to [the place or event you mentioned] tomorrow, it would be great if you could come along." dont ask for her number at this point yet. you have to act as though you wont die if she cant make it. if she has plans, tell her cancel them, because this is an opportunity she doesnt want to miss, youre more interesting than whatever she has planned. she'll reconsider, and probably agree. then say "cool! i can call you tomorrow so you know where to meet me" she'll say "do you have my number?" lol duh! crack on her and then exchange numbers. now you have a reason to call, and she has a reason to accept your call. and the date is already set. youre in

Answer 2

There isn't. Some women just don't want to be approached by total strangers. You could make eye contact first then smile at them to make sure. If they smile back, then that's a good sign. If they avert their eyes and/or cross their arms (a known defensive pose) it's best to stay away.

Sometimes asking for help is a great conversation starter. Ask them for their opinion about a book (if you're in a bookstore), a shirt (inside a store in the mall), or if they think something in the menu looks good (at a food place). Asking for a number outright before establishing anything is usually scary and stalkerish. Good luck.

Answer 3

tell her about your package. Works for me.