ok so my boyfriends sister who is a little younger than i has a baby and i see how my boyfriend gives her attention i mean of course he's the uncle right. Well the daddy isnt in the picture and i feel that the baby is seeing my boyfriend as a dad. I feel jealous because i want a baby and he always tells me were too young and we have to get our career started and this and that but i wish he would give the attention he gives to the baby to our own. I dont know its driving me crazy and i feel horrible for being jealous. Is it right what im feeling?
2006-11-02 08:22:35 · 19 answers · asked by H0T_SAUZE 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
ok so im not saying i dont love the baby already but i do feel horrible that i feel jealous.
2006-11-03 00:24:17 · update #1
i actually think its mature. sounds crazy but at least u realize it, most women feel jealousy like this but dont' realize it (my step-mom is jealous of my dad's kids and doesn't realize that's why she doesn't like them).
tell ur guy how u feel and don't feel bad about it, he probably doesn't realize that he's ignoring u and spending so much time with the baby. if u tell him and he blows u off ur forced to either get over it or unfortuanalely move on from the relationship
2006-11-02 08:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by confused mom 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As I see it. All babies get alot of attention. You just can't help it. I think he is right about waiting on getting your life together before you throw a child into it. Having a baby is a big responsibility. If you are wanting to go to college, chances are, if you have a child, you will never make it to college until after the child is alot older. Unless you have a built in babysitter and you don't mind that person raising your child. If you get a education first and a good job, you can take time off the job and spend time with your baby and then go back to work when he gets a little older or when he starts kindergarden. It takes alot of money to take care of a child the right way. If your boyfriend is making $40,000 a year, go for it and have a kid, but if he is bringing home just enough for you two to survive, why do you think you could afford a child? Anyway, what I am trying to say... you can have a child, but get your life together first. Make sure you two are meant to be together... things happen and then your left there with a child and the child is stuck in the middle of it... you also need time alone with each other. Alot of couples get pregnant "accidently" as soon as they start dating and things don't end up in a happy ending. Just think long and hard before you make any big decisions and trust me having a child is a big decision. Good luck.
2006-11-02 08:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal what you are feeling. It sucks when you want a baby and you watch others have them especially when you feel like your situation is more stable. For instance you say that the father of the baby isnt involved and that the sister is younger than your boyfriend, so you start to think that if you had a baby it wuold be a better situation. All i can say is that your time will come, let your boyfriend enjoy being an uncle. If you can try and talk to your bf about how you are feeling, but dont pressure him into having babies, that will only push him away. Good luck and i hope things get better for you.
2006-11-02 08:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its probably normal, but that doesnt mean it makes since. The love he has for his nephew is totally different from the love he will have towards you and you guy's baby, when you have one. Look at it like practice, you see how responsible he is with his nephew and how much he cares for the baby,so you have something to look forward too. The only reason he doesnt want to have a baby with you right now is because he wants to be able to give the baby a good life, so dont be mad, be happy and excited that you have a great guy, because there isnt many out there!
2006-11-02 08:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ashly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds such as you acquired a rather loved ones orientated younger guy. He's correct approximately in need of a groundwork in situation earlier than bringing children into the sector. 19 years in the past I had my first little one. I used to be 28. I marvel normally if I do not need waited. Or a minimum of completed school. There are matters I are not able to provide my youngsters due to the fact I do not need the incomes energy. It hurts. Enjoy being Uncle Mario and Aunt Boo. Allow your self the luxurious of admiring this younger guy's affection to the little one. Know he's going to be a well dad and will make well selections. Try to help him whilst he makes the rough selections, like ready. He's seeking to do what he thinks is exceptional. It's very rough to be in a courting in which you're making constructive selections and continually being moment-guessed or undermined. If he makes a well resolution, help it. He seems like a well fellow. See if you'll hold him.
2016-09-01 06:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by likins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the baby needs attention, because their is no father figure, you boyfriend might see this jealousy in you and figure you are not ready for a baby, because he will give the attention to the baby and then you will be stuck in the dust. This sounds like my brother's situation, he says he is too young and his girlfriend wants to be married. Just give attention to the baby too and he will see that you are being nice and that shows him you will be a great mom.
2006-11-02 08:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That First guy who has answered you is a ***, But yes isn't right to be jealous, its just a baby, but I would take his advice on you all being too young, Im not sure how old you are, but kids will change your life, and you will be wishing you waited.
2006-11-02 08:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by TC 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're jealous and that's a normal human emotion you just have to make sure that you control it and it doesn't control you. If the baby doesn't have a father that's active in his life and your boyfriend is taking over as a father-figure you should be proud and glad that you chose a man who cares about babies. When you're older and ready to get married he'll be a good father to your babies. Good luck.
2006-11-02 09:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being jealous of a baby is very normal cuz they get all the attention--im 6 months prego and I was starting to get jealous of my own baby cuz my hubby would pay so much attention to him and not me. so I told my hubby how i felt----maybe u need to talk to ur boyfriend and let him know and try to work things out--u need to be happpy for the baby!
2006-11-02 08:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by martha95355 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is his sister and you have no right to be jealous. That child will grow up with an uncle who loves and cherishes the experience of being a part of his family tree. You are definitely not ready to be a mother as your behaving as a child. If I cant have a baby than your not going to enjoy your sisters. Learn to appreciate your boyfriend and his nurturing qualities, he has already indicated to you that he is not ready to be a father. Are you not listening.
2006-11-02 08:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by ava_weis 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋