Crying out for help?

Question

i see a thearpist but alot of the time i dont tell her much
she ask if i am coping and i tell her i am, when most of the time i am not, i feel if i tell her i feel sucidal or feel i cant cope something bad will happen but i feel like i need more help
has anyone got any advice or ideas?

Answer 1

Hi, I feel for you, you are so young to be feeling how you do, I've looked at your other questions, you can email me anytime, it would be a pleasure. I too am going through a depression and have really struggled with it, and I am a lot older than you, so you're doing really well, hang in there! Somedays I feel like I am doing ok, other days I just wake up crying. You have a lot of responsibility and I am sure you are doing an amazing job in looking out for your mum, but it must be tough. It's easier sometimes to tell someone, especially a therapist that you are doing ok, when inside you just want to burst. When you feel suicidal you kinda say it expecting to not be taken seriously, it is serious and if you feel that way, yes, try and talk about it, it does help believe me. It doesn't stop you feeling like it, but it does help you to know someone is there to hear you and especially someone who knows and understands depression and its' seriousness. Good luck babe, if you want to email me, chat anytime, please do, don't feel like you are on your own. x

Answer 2

You should try talking to friends and family first. If you cannot connect with them. If you feel like your therapist is asking too many questions, tell her that. Tell her you feel like you can't talk to her with all of the drama in your life. She will probably see that you are serious and will ease up. Try to tell her a little bit at a time. You will probably open up more once you do that. Also, you should be able to talk to her about anything without any worries and it should be kept confidential. You may want to ask her what if it is confidential just to make sure. Try to live life to the fullest. I hope you've found the right answer by now.

Answer 3

Don't be afraid to tell her these things, if you can find the courage to tell her then she can help you. If you don't have the confidence to tell her face to face, write your feelings down and give it to her to read. Once you take the step of letting her know how you really feel, it will be easier to discuss it and you can start to feel better. Nothing bad will happen if you tell her, your feelings are real whether you admit them or not,and you will have to face up to them. Saying them out loud does not mean something bad is going to happen, it just means you have to stop hiding from youself, which can be scary. But it will be worth it, so take a deep breath and go for it. Best wishes.

Answer 4

It appears you are not altogether comfortable with the therapist you see. Perhaps you should consider seeing someone new. You may be holding back from your current therapist because you are afraid she will tell you what you don't want to here. When in fact it is what you need to here, just not from her/him. I think a fresh new start could do you some good, but do not keep it all in. This is very damaging and hard to deal with on your own. It will not hurt you to open up, it may just save your life.

Answer 5

Do you feel like you can open up to your therapist? If not you need to find one that you can. You really need to find someone that you are confident enough to open up fully and say how you really feel. I saw several before I found one I really trusted. Hypnotherapy was what worked for me in the end. ( my hypnotherapist was also a psychotherapist) But remember you didn't suddenly feel like this overnight so it'll take time. Nothing bad will happen to you and you will eventually get there. Good luck and try and keep your chin up.

Answer 6

The best thing to do is tell her!.. when i had a shrink i thought of her as a friend that will never say anything and won't judge you! if your not comfortable talking to her try asking if you can write everything down instead of telling her, & she can write back to you i know it sounds silly but thats what i did when i was younger and afraid to speak but that really helped me open up to her & eventually i would excited to go see her and work out everything!

Answer 7

Maybe you can't tell her because you don't feel you can trust her or she can really help you. She will know you aren't opening up to her. You have to let her help you...it's a big step in itself trusting someone with your most personal thoughts. Let her in a little....maybe the chance to open the floodgates might be a really cathartic experience. Do you think it would be the same with another therapist ???

Answer 8

Alot of people will tell you that you need to pray, or you need to go to church. But I have been thru the same thing. Truly. I found out that if you have faith that your healed and truly believe it (faith) all you problems will seem to be gone. God spoke back to me the moment I truly spoke to God with my heart. He took my problems and healed me from all that was bad. ( and man was it bad) Your best friend can always be with you everywhere and supernaturally turn things good in your favour. I love him for that and I now don't care who knows. He did its for me and in a instant can do it for you. Just ask him and believe in him and he'll never let you down. It can hurt. what do you have to lose? You always have that unlocked door that waiting for you to let go and let God. I opened it and have been so happy ever sense. Brian

Answer 9

Your counsellor cannot help you if you are not totally honest with her. By being less that truthful with her, you waste your time and hers. If you are not comfortable with her, find another counsellor, but for pity's sake be honest.
A therapist or counsellor is in a much better position to help you than some online venue like this. BUT, you HAVE to be honest.

Answer 10

A lot of us feel the way you feel, or used to feel that way. It is relly hard.

But, you have to talk to someone, so it might as well be the therapist. Tell her everything. Tell her how you feel.

You just told us, and none of us can help you. You have to tell someone who is there to help you.

If you don't like her, then change therapists. She'll undersand. Just say, "I don't feel like I can talk to you. I need to change to another therapist." Don't worry about hurting her feelings, it's part of her job. She will be able to handle it.