I am engaged to a person millions miles away from me! I love him but want to know public opinion on the general issue of these relationships
2006-11-02 08:18:09 · 19 answers · asked by Alexandra M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships can work, contrary to popular belief. My husband and I spent most of our courtship while far away from each other. There are a few things that you HAVE to do in order for these types of relationships to work.
First, you have to set boundaries and rules. Express to your significant other about what they do when they're out and about that makes you uncomfortable. Do you not like when he goes out with his single friends? Do you hate it when he drinks too much? Make sure that you are also making sacrifices if your significant other asks. These relationships are always about give and take.
Second, you have to make time for each other. Phone calls and letters work best when you're really far apart. If it's possible, save your money and plan a trip to see him. If that's not possible, I would try to talk on the phone at least twice a day. Try to write letters daily as well.
Third, you have to keep in mind that a relationship is what you put into it. If you put in great things, you will get great things in return. Good luck, and I hope that your relationship works out for the best.
2006-11-02 08:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It will work only if you've been together for a while and then he moved or left etc...!
If this relationship is based in a long distance engagement then it will fail...in the end...and i am sorry if i am disappointing you!
But if you try who knows maybe this time and for you luck and love will help you!!!
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2006-11-02 08:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that long distance can definitely work, but it will take a lot of effort, dedication, and TRUST...If both of you are in true love, the relationship can work, but, in the end, for it to be long term, you will need to be together with some frequency, so the spark is not lost...
2006-11-02 08:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by PutridBliss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a long distance for 11 months until I moved to be with my girlfriend. It's a really hard thing to do, but if you can make it through being away from eachother then their shouldn't be any problem you can't overcome. Good luck, and email me if you have any other questions!
2006-11-02 08:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by j_della28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both love each other, distance and time will not matter. I have been dating someone that lives 1200 miles from me, going on three years. I am happy, and we plan to live closer when things change in our work.
2006-11-02 08:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by gk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships are a joke. a guy im seeing is in a long distance relationship and guest what he is sleeping with me. true enough he loves her but everone gets lonely.that a sure way to go down hill. then people grow a part.
2006-11-02 08:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by allendreamcometrue 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No... being long-distance precludes the communication (non-verbal... not over the phone!) and experiences that allow you two to really get to know each other. You are just seeing a facade.
2006-11-02 08:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by andalucia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love never Fails
2006-11-02 08:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the people in the relationship. Some can... it isn't completely illogical but it is ALOT of worry, lonliness, and work.
2006-11-02 08:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by xxkittenluvxx143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you eally love this person and he feels the same way about you nothing else matters, and if you do love him as much as you say you will wait for him as long as it takes.
2006-11-02 08:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by chiquita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋