It's been 11 months and I still haven't gotten over the fact that I lost my virginity to the wrong person and I hate myself for it and I just want to forget it.
2006-11-02 08:18:01 · 25 answers · asked by hermione3291 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't lose it hon, you gave it away. Should've really thought about it!
You need to get over it though, because hating yourself wont' maek you a virgin again...
*laughs*
2006-11-02 08:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by kisme86 3 · 1⤊ 8⤋
Well im not sure if it ever goes away. I lost mine to the right person at the time, and I thought I would marry him. He dumped me for another girl, so sometimes I question whether or not I should have done that. Sometimes I wish I would have waited. At the time I knew I wanted it to be him, but now that he left me, I'm not so sure. You feel bad, but the reality is that life goes on and you begin to try to accept it. I has been over a year for me and some days I am okay with it, and some days I feel like crap. I cant go back to the past and change things, but I do know that from now on the people I sleep with will be chosen very carefully. Even though I'm not a virgin anymore, I will still be very selective. I might make a man wait 6 months to a year if that's what I need. If he cant wait, then he isn't for me. I think when I find somebody who treats me well, and makes me feel good about our physical relationship, I will begin to let it go, and be okay about the first time. You will be okay, I promise. Some days are just worse than others.
2006-11-02 08:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by ImAGoodGirl0605 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you made a mistake, you are only human, thinking about it won't bring it back. How do you know this was the wrong person?. There is more to life than a lost virginity. Start living the right person is still out there virgin or no virgin.
2006-11-02 08:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone bible-beat you too much. Really, guys don't value "virginity" as much as girls are pounded by the pressure of it growing up. Don't beat yourself up over it as it's really not worth it. As long as you hold the idealistic views that you have toward sex then you'll always feel the guilt that you now have.
Think of it this way. You (and your body) are a gift that you choose to give to the person you want to be with so no guy is going to think less of you unless your banging a new partner ever other night. With that fact in mind, you're still as sacred as you were the night before you had sex (and don't let any guy treat you otherwise).
2006-11-02 08:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Spugsy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is no turning back time but however time is the only thing that will get you over this. Just remeber, we all make mistakes. If it wasn't to losing our virginity to the wrong person or just getting to drunk and sleeping with the wrong person and TOTALLY regretting it, believe me it has happened to all of us. Just don't be so hard on yourself, OK? Society makes it hard on us women trying to make a big deal out of virginity and we should be ladies and such. I say **** that!! What you should do is get with the right man and have a good relationship, it'll get better.
2006-11-02 08:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by briansbutterflygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The act of losing one's virginity, that is, of a first sexual experience, is commonly considered to be an important life event and a rite of passage. The loss of virginity can be viewed as a milestone to be proud of or as a failure to be ashamed of (particularly if a lack of self control was involved), depending on individual perceptions. If you are teenager there is not right person to loose virginity all relations are wring and bounded to fail, before you reach maturity. So do not blame yourself you are not alone to loose it.
2006-11-02 08:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never get over losing it to the person you lost it too. it doesn't matter if it was the "right" person or the "wrong" person.
its something that you will always keep with you and it will help define who you are.
Its up to you as to what you do with it. You can either decide to become stronger because of it and make better choices or you can decide to let it ruin your life.
The choice is up to you.
2006-11-02 08:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you can't cry about the past and you can't change it. Just be careful the next time. Try and get to know the person and enjoy one another's company. Sex shouldn't be the only thing in common. There should be a friendship there. Forgive yourself--you will learn from it and seems like already have.
2006-11-02 08:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone makes mistakes......don't beat yourself up over it.
Should you have waited, yes...but all you can do now is learn your lesson from this experience and do better next time.
Feel proud of yourself for LEARNING THE LESSON...for this is far more important. There will be plenty of other "wrong ones" to practice saying no to. And when you do decide to take that step with the RIGHT person, you'll be glad you held out.
In other words: when you know better, you do better.
Forgive yourself.....
2006-11-02 08:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by curiousRO 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't,but do not hate yourself. At the time you thought the person was special enough. You need to just learn from this and the next time it will be more special because you know what you want more in the person you are with.
2006-11-02 08:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by eeyoree rocks2003 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
losing your virginity is a sacred thing, but how were you to know? Everyone makes mistakes. If you really want to make it right. consider yourself a reborn and don't have sex for 10 years. Or just concentrate on finding mr right and making a brand new start. If ya can't fix it, you need to get over it.
2006-11-02 08:21:49 · answer #11 · answered by Nicole M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋