i love my man so much, but he can't satify me sexually, he c u ms in one mintue and doesn't want to do it again. we have been together 5 yrs and moved in together 4 months ago. i need him to give me more pleasure, he also won't go down on a female... what can i do. i want to cheat so i can have a big one. what u think.
2006-11-02 08:08:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is very much in shape but he is boring, when we met we used to do it 7-10 times a day..
2006-11-02 08:11:16 · update #1
I think it was a mistake to move in together. First of all, the basis of a relationship is honesty even when the other person might not like what you have to say. Sex is important. Your relationship is already in trouble since you want to cheat. He needs to know that you have a right to sexual pleasure. You need to talk. There is also medication for premature ejaculators. You wont find out any of this if you dont talk. If he doesnt want to talk, tell him that this is so important to you that if you dont talk, you will step out on him. You have a right to pleasure. Hes probably not very happy with himself either. No guy that goes off in a few minutes is really very happy with himself but his manhood prevents him from talking or doing anything about it. Speak now or hold someone else's piece.
2006-11-02 08:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think cheating is the answer, think again...at least for now. The key to any relationship is communication - if you've been together for 5 years, there must be something of a line there, but if you don't tell him what you need to get off, how is he going to know? Psychic powers? Smoke signals? Explain it to him in terms he'll understand: "Baby, I'm like the car in the winter...I need time for my engine to warm up before you put it in gear!"...however you need to word it, do it. Find out why he doesn't do the things you want him to do (need a to mow the lawn? bad memories of tuna sandwiches? just plain icky?) and see if you can't compromise in some way that will make you both happy in the long run. And hey, if he still isn't doin' it for ya, then find your little toy on the side and enjoy!
2006-11-02 08:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian Beaver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have suggested that he go down on you. Sometimes I get a little too worked up and Mt. Vesuvius blows before the villagers can prepare. ;) So I make sure that she has had a few first. Personally I love it. Sometimes I love it too much...ahem...but the excitment gets me going all over again. I tell my wife the first one is for me and the rest are for you. Now my wife also tells me what, when and how she wants things and I appreciate not having to wonder what she is wanting. Dont be quiet. Love making shoudl be shared fully. Dont hold back your passion and dont let there be any guesisng / wondering. Communication is so important in every facet of a relationship. Now go have fun. Be sexy and let your primal side take over.
2006-11-02 08:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Digging for answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking with him and telling him that you would like to be satisfied before he gets himself off. That way you both are satisfied when everything is done.
Then teach him how to satisfy you by guiding him to places where you like being touched, licked, grabbed, etc. If he truly cares, he will be attentive and want to learn how to satisfy you in the same way you satisfy him.
The women I have been with think I am a great lover because of the simple fact that I take the time to make sure they are satisfied before I have my own satisfaction. It's not hard to learn and the benefits are very much worth it.
I hope this helps.
2006-11-02 08:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Red1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already have the thought of cheating, you need to either break up with him or talk to him. Tell him what you want.Just because he will not go down on you does not mean you can not have a big one. Rent a porn movie and when you see something say hey why dont we try that.
2006-11-02 08:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by shy one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 06:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by likins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years of bad sex? Add variety like pornos, toys, different positions and places to have sex..you know foreplay and dirty talk.
He has to want to satisfy you. If he doesnt, then why are you even with him? You deserve more than that, cuz im sure its not just about lack of sexual satisfaction.
If those things dont work or he refuses to participate, dump him cuz its only gonna get worse.
2006-11-02 08:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by sabor69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the 2 of you talked about bringing others into your bedroom for more excitment and pleasure? Sometime it will highten the experience and if its concensual, its not cheating. Maybe then he will see how important it is to please the lady. Just a suggestion.
2006-11-02 08:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by justjim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. 1st off, if he's not goin down on you, then you better not be going down on him, especially if he aint givin you pleasure any other way. Try a vibrator. I personally recommend the hummingbird, its @ starshipstores.com
2006-11-02 08:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by belle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hun
ok then well y dont u get him told it back just before he comes and then sex lasts longer
do loads of different positions wiv him
get him to use his fingers on u (if u know where i mean) he might enjoy it if he dont like goin down on a girl
good luck
take care
2006-11-02 08:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋