I have just gotten together with a guy that I adore, even though he's a good 40 minutes away. His concern is that he doesnt wish to be held down. How do I spend time and contact him without being clingy, but also not be too far?
2006-11-02 08:06:42 · 6 answers · asked by Wondering 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy seems to have the ego the 'size of montana' as the expression goes--based on your brief description. So he tells you he doesn't 'want to be held down'. I'll bet he would like everything at his convenience, on his time table, and on his terms. He is probably not going to give you very much attention...and his playing hard to get may be what attracts you. You may not have the option of spending time with this guy. Wait and see what develops before you get too carried away (for your own sake)--you need to figure out what he has in mind and ensure that suits your needs as well. I'd suggest not contacting him at all....and see how frequently he contacts you. It may be that you don't want such an infrequent love in your love. Think about it--you may be swept off your feet at this point but if he is going to be cold, it may not be worth it. I don't mean to be negative....but keep your options open and if you see someone else that interests you in the meantime I suggest you go for it. He plans to keep his options open...that's probably what he meant when he said he didn't want to be held down. What a guy!
2006-11-02 08:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no. Not another "doesn't want to be held down" story. There are many themes to this sort of story, but they are all the same. "don't want to be held down", "not ready for an eclusive realtionship", "not looking for a commitment"...he has give you all the signs. What he is saying is that he wants a realtionsip (but probably just a sexual one) so don't be agry when he's dating and having sex with someone else when your not available.
2006-11-02 08:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is already saying he doesnt want held down well give him all the rope he needs to hang himself... dump him b4 u get even more hurt too many great dudes out there that love loving and will kiss your a s s dailly...
2006-11-02 08:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pursue him. Call him ever 3-4 days. If he's interested, he'll contact you (more and more). Play hard to get.
Keep it that way constantly until he volunteers a commitment to you.
2006-11-02 08:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Spugsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call him everyday, tell him to call you when he feels like doing something. send him an email once in awhile asking if he would like to do something.
2006-11-02 08:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him come to you... ;) ignore him and see what happens... :D
2006-11-02 08:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋