I just received a letter from a guy who basically shared some pretty deep feelings for me in it.
I just wrote him back, and in a very kind and loving way i expressed that i did not feel the same, but that i thought very highly of him (which i do).
Is he going to be completely devestaded?? I know what it's like to feel that way, but i do not want to lead him on. I feel bad. Any thoughts?
2006-11-02 07:39:46 · 18 answers · asked by Red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing. You had no alternative. If you lead him on that would have hurt him more in the long run. I don't think he'll be devestated, more likely dissapointed. He must have known when he wrote his letter, that this was one of the possible outcomes from doing such a thing.
2006-11-02 07:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did the correct thing.You didnt drive red hot pokers into his heart or rip it out and shred it in front of him so youre on a roll.No, seriously,You made the right decision.You told him in no uncertain terms how you feel and what you think of him.He might pout around a few days but when you see him just act as if things are still friendly between you both and let him know theres no uncomfortable feelings anywhere. He will play it off somehow,just let him deal with however he likes as long as its not destructive..
2006-11-02 07:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by bundyal38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you didn't lead him on.... he will be disappointed but you handled it the best way you could......it would have been worse if he would have thought you liked him and then you had to break it off at a more serious part of the relationship.....he will be over it in a month maybe a week
2006-11-02 07:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by michaelpaul7747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You can't worry about what he'll go through. Just take pride in the fact that you will get him where he ought to be, at least with you, in the long run. If you didn't kill him, you've only made him stronger. Good for you.
2006-11-02 07:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he's going to feel really bad, but you can't lie to him about it. Telling him how you actually feel in the nicest way possible is the best you can do. Hopefully he'll be able to take it allright.
2006-11-02 07:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you did not lead him on because that would have hurt him even more. Sounds like you did the right thing don't be hard on yourself he will move on and find someone one day
2006-11-02 07:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he will be hurt but it is best to tell him and get it over that way it is said and done. But don't tell him that i just want to be friends thing that is like a knife in the back to a man. just tell him it ain't working it is over
2006-11-02 07:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by cbrwyrn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with guys
if you do not devastate them
they will always think you want them..
and keep coming back or keep you in their heart and keep hurting.
so with guys you have to make a clean and powerful break...
sorry but that's the way it is..
good luck
2006-11-02 07:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people take rejection way to seriously, depending on how their told, time will tell.
2006-11-02 07:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Poker Face 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THANK YOU. Honest people rock, you will save him time and yourself humility from having to be too upfront. Good Job.
2006-11-02 07:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by Baba Ganoush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋