My boyfriend gets superhard when we are just fooling around, but when we are getting ready to have sex, he just suddenly goes limp. Neither of us have had this happen before so we dont know why its happening. But whenever he sees me or touches me he gets excited and hard. Why does this change when we are about to have sex?
2006-11-02 07:39:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is probably shy or nervous. never act offended by it as that will make it worse. you need to find a way to keep his attention on [the moment] and not so much on [the act]. example would be to continue kissing while [you] put things in place if ya know what i mean. it may take a while but always be patient and understanding.
2006-11-02 07:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey pumpkin,
You know I had this problem too and I saw an andrologist for this. He told me that the issue is not between my legs but between my ears! (My Mind)
Therefore I suggest that you guys dont even try to have sex for about a week and then take thing easy. I'm sure he'll be up like the Effiel tower asap.
If this doesnt work then he should consult a good andrologist and ask for the papavirine injection. This test will determine any abnormalities.
Good Luck.
2006-11-02 20:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of reasons are possible. I had a similar problem, i drank alot and lost my level of testosterone significantly. I had to go the doctor to get a mild steriod to get my level back and then it was ok. Another reason is if you are passive when fooling around. If you are gently rubbing and touching and not doing any action to keep him aroused, he could loose it. Make sure there is not a big gap of doing nothing between foreplay and sex
2006-11-02 07:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Baba Ganoush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband had that problem too. He needed viagra in his 20s. Turned out he had a problem with blood flow that he'll have the rest of his life. You might need to get your b/f to go see a urologist if this persists. Try going straight to sex without fooling around. Good luck to both of you - & have patience!
2006-11-02 07:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow weird, i just read somewhere yesterday that stress blocks like 50% of the blood flow to the penis. He needs some serious relaxation technique.
Let him know you dont judge him on his performance or find out what else is stressing him howboutit.
2006-11-02 08:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by sabor69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is all in the mind he has performance anxiety you know like stage fight rehearsals are great but when he needs to get on the stage to perform he looses his... well nerve.
2006-11-02 07:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's an anxiety thing. .perhaps he feels he can't perform or scared he won't satisfy you -- men are much more inclined to be nervous about stuff like that - -
2006-11-02 07:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u guys fool around to much and his excitment wears down?
2006-11-02 07:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by lpxerounderground 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats happened to my guy too. I asked the doctor and he said that it is because they r nervous.
2006-11-02 07:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, pressure to perform.
2006-11-02 07:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋