My husband and I have been together for 13 years. My mother-in-law has been been to my family's homes for holiday dinners, birthdays, anniversary parties, etc. She has also attended two weddings in my family. When her other son married three years ago she didn't bother to invite ANYONE in my family but managed to invite neighbors of hers. Not once has she invited any of my family members to her house though she's been to theirs countless times. I say it is extremely rude to me and my parents. What do you think?
2006-11-02 07:39:30 · 17 answers · asked by Kimmy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is rude!!! You should tell your husband how it affects you and how about the next time she invites you but not your family, let her know that you can't make it. Maybe she will get the hint, or is you want to play with fire, just bring your parents along anyway. She may get upset, but she won't really be able to do anything about it. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 07:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs do not make a right so I wouldn't be vindictive and stop inviting her to family functions. It is very possible she does not know any better and doesn't realize she is being rude.(I think it is more thoughtlessness than rude). People are not mind readers so it would help your situation if you told her how you feel. You can say it in a way that would not offend her and at the same time let her know how it bothers you. Chances are she will start inviting your family and all will be happier. If she doesn't, at least you know she knows how you feel and it becomes her problem then, not yours. Communication is always the best solution. Good Luck, I know you will feel better after talking with her. Have a nice day!
2006-11-02 08:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband comes from a different family who has different values it does not mean they are rude it just means they do things differently. Look if it bothers you so much ask her if she minds if you and your mom comes over for lunch on day. You have to respect other peoples differences. I am sure there are many things your family does that drives your husband insane, Like how your family always have to show up everywhere. But he loves you so he puts up with it.
2006-11-02 08:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be surprise, but some people does not have any social graces, she probably does not know the difference. Don;t make a big issue out of it, if you feel to invite her, do so, if you or your family does not feel, they do not have to. Your parents have class, she does not. that is what it is all about. Don't even say any thing to your husband.
2006-11-02 07:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just be glad she doesn't come to your house changing your curtains, or telling you that you are not watching your kids close enough because they come off the school bus and into the house without you there to hold their hands.
Yes, she sounds very rude, but don't let her walk all over you.
2006-11-02 07:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is really very rude. but what can you do about it? nothing!what does your husband say about the whole thing? maybe he would be able to mention this to his mother.if he is not willing to do so, then i guess all you can do is roll with the punches, as long as you and your family continue what your doing, you will all be able to sleep at night.
2006-11-02 09:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think it is rude and I wouldn't invite her to another gathering for my family until she did.
2006-11-02 07:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be rude. So what? Do you want to be like her? Your life and your children's lives will be better because you are not rude. Keep being polite to her. What does it cost you? But don't expect any change in her.
2006-11-02 07:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very rude of her....
Why don't you talk to her and tell her that...
If she still does not improve, stop inviting her anywhere...
2006-11-02 07:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Manisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would agree that that is pretty rude. why don't you just stop inviting her then? give her a taste of her own medicine
2006-11-02 07:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by superstar_81882 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋