ok so i really like this girl. ive lliked her for about a year now and we talk alot and lately ive been wondering if i should tell her i like her. i flirt with her alot, but its hard to tell with her if she is flirting back or just being her. i really want to tell her but i don't know what she would say or do if she doesn't see me the same way.
i am hesitant to tell he because a few years ago, i was in the same siuation with another girl, and i told her but she didn't like me and we haven't talked at all since.
2006-11-02 07:36:30 · 24 answers · asked by Piano_Man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have a friend do a little fishing for you . have the friend find out how she feels about you but make her think that you don't know your friend is doing it so if she doesn't than you can still be friends.
2006-11-02 07:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by ash 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you sound like a real sweetheart!! I say go for it! You are just hesitant because you got shot down with another girl.. That was then. This is now. It is all up to the girl. These are two separate girls.. and while some hesitation (you are just shy.. awww.. and I think it rather sweet as I said) is o.k. IF you do not act now..? You won't grow as a person.. you need to go from the flirting stage (and yes.. over and over again, if need be) to the next stage.. it goes to love, 'commitment' .. all that good stuff! If you are lucky you find it (the whole enchilada) in that one special, sweet girl. You talked to her a year and you know you are compatible.. (that's the first step.. very important!) it's better to do things this way.. slowly (I know, too slow to you, right? lol) than rush into things.. (I know! I rushed into a relationship, or somebody rushed ME I might say and now am locked in an unhappy marriage for a very, very long time. I am sad for it.) Get a lot of experience with the opposite sex is what I am thinking.. if you get shot down, (as you were before) it is tellng you something. it is making you grow a little at a time at learning what you want/like and will make things work out better in the long run.. for the rest of your life.. (sorry I am so wordy here! lol..) later-
2006-11-02 15:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you didn't mention your age bracket but if you are already acquainted with her and friends,,,, then that's half the battle ,,,, A relationship with someone doesn't just start out with them meeting for the first time and deciding then and there weather they are going to go steady or not ,,,, A relationship needs to be nurtured and cultivated ,,,, It usually takes time ,,,, If you've been seeing each other for a year then maybe the time is right for you to approach her with this now ,,,, Who knows,,,, She just might be feeling the same way towards you but shy about it ,,,, it's not the girls place to tell you first anyway ,,,, Maybe she's waiting on you ,,, Sounds to me like the ball is in your court ,,,, So to speak ,,,, What are you going to do with it? ,,,, Nothing ventured nothing gained ,,,, Just be honest and open with her ,,,, Tell her on the phone you want to talk to her in person and once you are together,,,, just come out with it ,,,, She might need time to think it over,,,, maybe not ,,,, who knows ,,,, But she will either accept or she won't,,,,Don't pressure her,,,, And allow her the options of either with out hard feelings if she doesn't accept ,,,, But either way what you tell her shouldn't effect your friend ship in the least ,,,, This other girl in the past that you mentioned must be childish or immature to say the least ,,,,So you are better off with out her ,,,, I would think that such a confession from a guy that she's already friends with would be flattering and would at least make the friendship a little stronger if nothing else ,,,, It certainly wouldn't be a reason for ending it ,,,,Just make sure you give her the options and make sure you tell her there are no hard feelings if she doesn't accept ,,,, Maybe this friend you lost wasn't really a friend at all ,,,,, Give it a shot with this girl ,,,, She can't make you bleed unless she's a vampire lolol ,,,,, Yoda said that
2006-11-02 17:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell her you like her. What do you have to loose?
I have alot of male friends and believe it or not every last one of them liked me when they met me. They eventually knew that they didn't have a chance with me but we all stayed really cool friends. I can talk to them about anything and get their advice on anything that i want. You can also do the same and maybe one day she will realize it was you the whole time that she was looking for she just didn't realize it. Good Luck and let me know how it goes.
2006-11-02 15:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by TASHA T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her! but mayb you should tell her that u still wanna b friends if it doesnt work out the way you like. She isnt gonna hate you or never wanna talk to you again, especially if u talk to her a lot already. It is a habit to talk to you now, so she wont b able to not talk to someone that she talks to all the time! u cant just quit a habit.YOu'll still b able to talk and be friends if you do it rite!
2006-11-02 15:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it. You don't want to spend all your time wondering while, maybe she is liking you but getting sick of waiting for you. I wouldn't even tell her anything. I would just kiss her. If you are going to do for it, you should go all the way. And if she doesn't return the feelings...well thats life. Atleast you can move on. :)
Good Luck!
2006-11-02 15:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by oppsy_poopsy123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These situations are hard to read sometimes when you're in them. I wouldn't blurt it out, because you're right it probably will chase her away. I've seen it happen time and time again and I don't get that but I'm not like most I guess. So, anyhow, wait till she says some sort of compliment to you and then say that it sounds like you like me. Or make a joke out of it.......ooo you like me....ooo you want to hug me......oooo you want to kiss me.......believe me lots do it. lol. Or you can try just the opposite when she says something close to a insult or a diss say oh ya I love you too.......soon enough she should give you an indication of what she feels....at least for your sake she does.......when in doubt you could always just ask her if she likes you like that and don't say you feel that way unless she feels that way too......hope I helped......
2006-11-02 15:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by lcbwitch 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok. yes u definitely should tell her u like her and if she doesnt like u in the same way ask if u guys could still b friends. good luck!
2006-11-02 15:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's hard. I wouldn't ask her best friend because if that was me I'd see you as a wimp. Actually i don't know what I would do. If you're like really good friends with her then she'll probably feel bad for you (if she doesn't like you) and not really urn you down, well not mean at least.
2006-11-02 15:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Briana 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nothing ventured nothing gained. You must take a chance in order to gain what you want. If she not into you, you can go on to the next person instead of wasting time pining over her.
2006-11-02 15:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by nyasasmom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋