What is your opinion on these people who say giving your child a spanking is showing bad and abusive parental skills? I spank my kids as last resort if all else fails. Kids today are out of control because people are scared to discipline because everyone wants to cry abuse. A spanking on the butt is not abuse,I use to get spanked as a kid and I turned out to be a decent human being. Do some of you think people out ther should just mind there business and worry about there own families?
2006-11-02 07:31:57 · 19 answers · asked by onehotmama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree with you sometimes just putting a kid in time out doesnt work other people should worry about their own business and their own kids while their kids are running around like they dont know how to act
2006-11-02 07:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anita 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's crazy. I was watching 60 minutes last week about "Attachment Parenting" and these idiotic parents are saying that even saying "No" to your kids is abusive and disrespectful. The kid they were filming was a little terror, and you could see that he felt completely overwhelmed as to what he should be doing. Kids NEED to know that someone is in control, and a smack on the bum occasionally would do them the world of good. There are so many kids with absolutely no respect for any form of authority that it's scary to think what teenagers are going to be like in a few years time. I do think it's good that there are other alternatives to smacking (I work in Preschool and we have 24 kids behaving pretty well most of the time without smacking) but sometimes kids at home just need a short sharp reminder that they need to stop and a smack is the only thing that will work.
2006-11-02 15:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Amen Sister!! If you look around, it's the parents who want to judge you for spanking your kid, and call you a "child abuser"....they are the parent who have these "bad a s s little hellions who are out of control!! They are the same ones who ask the stupid questions on here like "How can I get three year old to stop calling me a b* tch, and spitting on me, or how can I keep my 6 y/o from smacking me in the face when I try to tell him no!" I'll tell them how to stop it......nip it in the bud before it starts....grow a backbone, and spank their little behinds!!! I have a 16y/o and a 13 y/o They aren't perfect little angels by any stretch of the imagination, but I guarantee you I NEVER had one of my kids to spit at me, or smack me, or cuss me.....They better hope and pray that the only thing I do to them is spank their little a s s! I'm not at all condoning child abuse.....But there's just some behavior that's not tolerated.
2006-11-02 15:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you. I also got spanked when I was a child and I think I turned out fine! I think our society has gotten worse because parents are not spanking their children when they need to. The kids just walk all over the parents like they are dirt. I'm actually scared for our future cause this world is filled with spoiled disrespectful children and teenagers!
2006-11-02 16:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Love Child 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is my understanding that it is okay as long as your not leaving a bruise! I was spanked too as a kid! It is a way of parents letting your kid know you mean busyness and you are seriouse! It does not have the same affect when you do what every one else tells you to do and give little Johnny a time out! My son was 3 and throwing a fit in the car, back seat and grabbed the ashtray and threw it at me and hit me in the head because I did not buy him a toy he wanted so I stopped the car, got out and spanked his butt, he has never hit me again! I know I would not have taught him any thing if I said "ok, when we get home, your gettin a time out"
2006-11-02 15:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
YES!! I completely agree with you!! I can't help it when parents look down on other parents who spank their kids. My daughter is 18 months old and I spank her also as a last resort. I can't stand when I am at the store and I see a parent talking to their child so patiently when their child is throwing a tantrum and screaming in front of alot of people. My daughter would never do that. She did it once at church, I took her out and spanked her and she never did it again!! I totally agree with you!!!
2006-11-02 15:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well look i have two baby girls i have a 1and a half year old and i have a newborn. My 1 year old is a very stubborn baby because when she was younger we gave her everything she asked for so now she thinks that she can do the same thing so i actually tried a few times to make her understand that it's not her way but it's really difficult so i begun using the same exact stratigy that my mom used with me and that's spanking. Now i don't do it too hard but i do it hard enough for her to understand that if she acts up again something that she doesn't enjoy is going to happen to her(spank) so honestly i don't think that it's abuse at all you just have to know haw to do it right.
2006-11-02 15:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by deepinchocolate69 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I so agree with you! When I was growing up I got smacked and I too turned out with good morals and respect for others. All my friends when I went to school use to laugh at me when I said that my parents smacked me. Can I say that I am now 29 and all those girls have turned out to be no hopers - on drugs, unemployed etc, etc. I now have 2 boys and like you, if all else fails they cop one on the bottom. I can already see the difference in my boys respect compared to my friends boys who don't get smacked. my husband didn't get smacked as a child, but admits that he needed to be as he got into alot of trouble as their was no serious consequence. i can't stand it when people tell me that its abusive to smack my own children. I am just sitting back and waiting for the day when my boys are successful and respectful men that have a great relationship with me and my husband, and lets just see how these others turn out - the ones that rule mum and dad from the age they can talk - Good luck I say!!!!
2006-11-02 19:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by mountain girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People stick their noses in because it is a passionate subject for most. I don't get tired of good constructive criticism, but I will not listen to verbal attacks on my parenting.
I spank; I admit it. And guess what? My two girls are probably some of the nicer kids around.
I wish some of their friends were mine for, oh say 1 good minute!
2006-11-03 07:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are the kind of parents that would rather be a friend then a parent--and it's unfortunate.
They say "It teaches them to hit" well it must not because I know alot of kids who are spanked who have never hit a single person in their life.
It's not abusive either. It's a swat on the rear, not a slap on the face.
2006-11-02 15:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋