if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
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and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
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i should also add that she has been calling/texting him since the begginning of july . . . he tried to get her back for 2 months after she broke up with him. . . they broke up for no reason . .. she just told him she wanted to date around .. . . and she texted him on what would have been there two year anniversary and reminded him of it
2006-11-02 07:25:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could you give us more detail, please . . .?
Ask her how she feels, and talk with her about your needs, fears, and concerns in the relationship.
If you can't trust her answer, then it's time to get counseling or consider leaving.
2006-11-02 07:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2 1/2 years of course she's still going to contact him. He went from being her close friend to absolute nothing. She more than likely doesn't want to be with him or she would be with him or someone else instead of trying to contact him. And the fact that he tried to get her back for two months shows that she doesn't want that. Either people get back together very quickly or not for a very long time like years from now. My guess is that she just misses her friend....the closeness she had with him.......I think it's ok to let it run it's course. Just tell her that you're sorry that he's chosen to treat her that way and that you hope he'll change his mind in the future. And I'm sure you'll mean it because you want her to be happy.
2006-11-02 15:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by lcbwitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can look happy on the outside but very unhappy on the inside. She has issues and I think you need to move on. I mean she broke up with the guy after 2 1/2 years so she can date AROUND. She is using you cuz if she wasnt she would of been honest with you. I think you are a crutch for her. Someone to lean on and sorry to say it she is going to move on also. She doesn't know what she wants. Good luck. Oh and by the way how do you know when and by what means she is trying to get ahold of him?
2006-11-02 15:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this girl is very young and doesnt know what she wants yet. If she was 100% happy she would not even be thinking about her ex. I am a true believer in never going backwards, only forwards, so maybe it's just me but ex's belong in the pass and if this girl can't seem to stop thinking about him and regardless of her excuses (Oh, I just want to see how he's doing, Im worried about him, whatever it is) don't put up with it. Im sure she would not like it if you were constantly trying to connect with your ex.
2006-11-02 15:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like to me she still has feelings for him and yes its sad to say but you could have been just on the rebound side if i was you considering the information you have given i would tell her she needed to make her mind up or else you was leaving cause it seems as she is trying her best to get back in touch with him wich could spell TROUBLE for the two of you if she was truly happy with you she wouldnt look back in the past of her ex
2006-11-02 15:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by dkay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she wants him back. Maybe she figures she made a mistake and is trying to fix it. But at the same time she probably doesn't want to be alone, and that's where you come in. If she keeps it up, kick her to the curb. I know it sounds harsh, but at least i'm honest. Everyone deserves someone who will give them their full attention.
2006-11-02 15:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by grrlstarr79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you were try talking to her about this, confronting her with this issue? Maybe she still has feelings for him, whether they be romanic or just as friends. If he hasn't responded to her, he either lost interest, doesn't feel the same way, or wants to forget and move one. You should really trying talking to her.
2006-11-02 15:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by oggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if your going to be in a relationship, be in one. I think what you miss is the habit of the other person, them being around all the time. but if you can build new memories and knew experience with the other then you won't miss the other person anymore. believe me I know from experience.
2006-11-02 15:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Manie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think --If she ever gets a response from him and he were to say he wanted her back, she would drop you like a hot potato.She's trying to get him back, but in the mean time she has you so she won't be alone.By the way -You sure are nosey(reading her e-mail).Haha!!!! I'd probably read them too if I knew how to get to them.
2006-11-02 15:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not over him. All the red flags are there. I know you can see them so, why torture yourself. Build the confidence you need to know that you deserve to be treated with respect. If you don't trust her, you need to move on.
2006-11-02 15:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by glisten1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋