is it me or ar parents nowadays losing control of their children??

Question

are parents losing control of their children (esp. when they are teenage). iv noticd the sudden increase in kids on the street drinkin l8 at night!! when ten years ago the streets were empty when people knew to go to a bar/club

Answer 1

You are correct!
It all comes down to parenting. Most parents nowadays suck!!!
I was raised in a respectable, happy & polite environment. When I did something wrong, I knew I'd get punished, (spanked). It was a clear decision on my part if I chose to misbehave that I'd have to face the consequences. It taught me the difference between right & wrong.
Actions & consequences. Every child should be taught this. If you choose a bad action be prepared to accept the consequences. (Age appropriate of course.)
Just so you all know I was only spanked about 3 times in my life. Im now 30 so it was rare.
The one spanking I deserved & remember is now the reason Im so thankful for being punished in the first place. I tried smoking & my best friend ratted me out. Man I learned what it was like to be betrayed then punished all in the same day.
Well my parents punishment stuck with me. To this day I don't & have never even touched another cigarette.
Peer pressure was nothing once I was spanked!
I am so thankful now that I was spanked back then.
The way I look at it now is it saved me financially & for my health as well!!!
Nicole

Answer 2

Well I dont know where you're from but in England kids have been hanging around the park, the bus shelter, or the town square, where ever they can find to drink cheap alcohol and hang out and flirt for hundreds of years.

Its never pretty or dignified and thats why hopefully most people stop doing it.
I think its rose tinted spectacles to say that didn't happen ten years ago - i speak embarrasedly as a teen drinker from ten years ago (now reformed) I believe white lightening cider and 20/20 were considered a right of passage for all school children from all kinds of schools.

Answer 3

I know I will get lots of flack for this answer but here it is:

Yes, and I think it's because more mothers are working and fathers are not spending as much time at home. They are more interested in getting the bigger house and nicer car or taking that exotic vacation then making a few sacrifices so that someone is home with the kids. If you are not there you can not keep your children in line. Also parents today want to be friends with their children and not parents.

Answer 4

Yup people have lost control of their children. They aren't kids now they are monsters. Its the fault of the parents and the authorities. Yes there are people who abuse their children but they are the ones that should be stopped. Not those who are genuinely sane and are trying to teach their kids right from wrong. Punishing a child when he/she does something bad does not mean you dont love them, it means you are teaching them that everything has consequences. Whats better becoming alcoholics at 18 or getting pregnant at 16 because you let them do what they want. They dont know any better..
You teach them to obey you , with love and it follows them for life because they learn to make good decisions.

Answer 5

yes its hard to be a parent these days. my kids were very defiant and the school councilor gave me a book on effective methods on gaining back parental control WITHOUT VIOLENCE. (no I don't think the answer is smacking your kids around) but then my 9 year old saw the book and was skimming through it....omg! she started screaming about how these were unfair things to do and started threatening repercussions if i tried any of it. ahhh they are a gift from god. but trough all my trials of methods I find that consistency from parents and anyone involved in the child's care is the best way. and listen to what your kids have to say you don't have to agree but listening to their grievances and letting them get it out helps. but trust me when the consistency isn't there you have utter chaos on your hands. but things are a lot more complicated now a days divorce long lost daddy and siblings pressure from every direction on both kids and parents. all I can say is people.... just do your best and don't ever forget the positives don't give up or it will just get worse

Answer 6

Seems a lot of parents today feel that they need to be their kids best friend. Well that is not what parenthood is all about. Being a friend of your children allows them lots of leverage that wasn't available to kids a couple of generations ago. When I was a teenager there was one of my friends parents who allowed us to drink and smoke dope in their house, saying that we were better off doing it there then on the street. But today a lot of parents seem to turn their heads to their childrens' substance use and almost condone it. Some even purchase it for underage kids. Like all of life the circle will return and parenting will once again take on the meaning of being responsible and showing a good example to your kids. Like a friend of mine says "you need a licence to catch a fish but to have a kid, nothing".

Answer 7

Yes, parents are losing control of their kids, because back in the 50's, when parents could actually whoop their kids asses, there were no schools getting shot up, or cars being stolen, or parents having to have their kids put in jail or juvenile. Now that the government has it fixed to where your kids can get you for child abuse if you happen to spank them, it's obvious that parents are losing control.

Answer 8

yES, PARENTS HAVE DEFINITELY LOST CONTROL OF THEIR CHILDREN. eSPECIALLY WHEN THEY GO TO SCHOOL AND THE LEARN FOUR THINGS RIGHT OFF THE BAT:
READING
WRITING
ARITHMETIC
THE PHONE NUMBER TO THE DEPARTMENT OF CHILDRENS SERVICES

It really is pathetic that kids can get away with talking to their parents in a way that if I had done it 35 years ago with my folks, my dad would have knocked me into the next county!
The first cigarette I got caught with, he made me sit down and chew and swallow a full pack of cigarettes. I puked for hours, but to this day I have never smoked since!
I was spanked and swateed and whipped while growing up and it made a respectful adult out of me.
The government and the state needs to stay out of the parenting business and turn discipline back over to parents.
We definitely need more hands on discipline.
Not abuse......just good old fashioned discipline.

Answer 9

Not just the parents fault. My eldest is the same way, but hard to beat someone who's bigger / taller than you and really can't do that to a 15 yr old. Never mind the fact that she's been told every year since kindergarten from teachers / preachers / grandparents, etc. that she doesn't have to listen to me or take any punishment or that's grounds for calling the cops on me. Hard to make kids mind when they know all they have to do is yell "abuse" and they are taken away.

Answer 10

I think it because of so many people having unwanted kids they just dont care where their children are at they probably out having a good time on thier own without worrying about their kids i have two kids and i can tell u i know where they at all the time they have respect for me as i have for them and i think that is important as well