im 19 and last week I went for a first date with this lad i liked for ages. half way through the date, i asked if i could put my phone in his coat as i was sick of carrying it round. in his pocket was about 6 condoms. I was too embarrassed to say anything, but i spoke to my mate when i got home. she said that he was obviously after one thing and i shouldnt see him again. is she right? or should i just be thankful that he was willing to be 'careful' if anything did happen between us. i dont want sex yet but i dont want him to get fed up of me, so im in a confusing situation- please help!!!
2006-11-02 07:03:06 · 46 answers · asked by lauz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is 24 btw,
he did try it on, which makes me more likely to think that he was after one thing, but dont want to be wrong and loose him because i really like him!
2006-11-02 07:16:48 · update #1
Naw...those were just extra balloons he had left from his previous party.
2006-11-02 07:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. BIG 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was probably just following the boyscouts motto: Always be prepared. If this is the only thing that bothered you about the date and his behaviour then don't give up on him because of it. He's a guy. He's into you and if you had been willing to have sex on the first date then he would have been ready, willing and able. By having condoms in his pocket he wasn't saying that he expected you to have sex with him right away he was just preparing for the small chance that you could. If he had propositioned you and made you feel uncomfortable then that is another story but you only found out they were there by accident.
Give the boy a chance!
Crystal
2006-11-02 07:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by www.crystalweddings.ca 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Any sexually active person should have and carry protection. If a guy is only after one thing then you will know by his approach, conversation, and his continuous attempts to make a move on you - - not by what he carries in his wallet or coat pocket...
And if any man gets fed up with you because you don't want to have sex then NO you don't need to see him again he is a complete asshole!
2006-11-02 07:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by mentalchallenge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I have condoms or perhaps a gun or maybe a knife in my pocket, it doesn't necessarily mean I have intentions of using it. I might have intentions or I'm being safe. There are a lot of reasons why the condoms are there in his jacket. And you can also get a lot of conclusions (probably bad) from it. But of course, always give him the benefit of a doubt and if it's not too intrusive, try to ask him why he brought those on your first date.
2006-11-02 07:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days its a good thing. if it was raining out and he had a pocket umbrella there would u call him a wimp?
as long as he didnt push (for sex) too hard, and he was a gentleman, it was a good thing.
take it as fast or slow as u feel like it, but i would say past date 3 (like third base) and u might be cutting it close.
frankly from a guy's point of view date #1 is best, but date #3 or 4 says u like him and u r not shy but u r not "easy" either.
also, it all depends on the level of dates, if they are short of shallow, date #9 might be required, if there is a mental connection and the bodies so "go ahead", why wait for a good thing?
gl nick
(one time, she was like first 5 g/f i had, i was turned on to no end, and so was she, i was pulling all the stops to get her to sleep w/me and she was turned on more and more, but she kept on saying "i cant", finally it dawned on me "she had her period ! dumb azz me ! next date, we were in bed before we even finished eating :)
2006-11-02 07:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nick A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's busted and he knows it. the two he will shape up or he will proceed to misinform you in the back of your lower back. the two way you recognize he's by no skill taking place the boat lower back with out you. end crying. you could't administration him. the only reason you're crying is because of the fact which you found out. the former day you had no theory and you have been fantastic. you enable the situation to impress you. you at the instant are not a undesirable individual and you probably did no longer something incorrect. do no longer act such as you're. in case you incredibly desire to stay with him then seek advice from him approximately it. If he would not look to worried by skill of your thoughts then he would not care in any respect.
2016-11-26 23:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just consider carrying condoms as everyday as carrying keys or money anymore- yes..better to be safe- it does show that he is considerate enough not to want to spread anything or catch anything- besides, be prepared *L* nothing worse than having to stop in the middle of something and have to run to the drug store..except maybe doing without and risking pregnancy or aids
2006-11-02 07:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just being prepared. He probably was unsure of what was going to happen and wanted to make sure he was ready for any eventuality. Plus, he's a fella! Be happy that he's willing to practise safe sex because so many men aren't, and seeing as he wasn't too pushy he's obviously prepared to wait. Good luck! xxx
2006-11-02 07:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Char Char Gabor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
EVERY responsible guy AND girl should carry a six pack of condoms with them AT ALL TIMES.
It doesn't mean they are only after one thing. It means they are responsible and when the time comes they will be protected!!!
Should he get mad at you for taking your bc pill every day? after all.. if you take that aren't you just after one thing? what about a diaphram? do you carry that in your purse?, sponge? what about the shot? its all the same thing. He is being responsible... give him some credit!!! would you rather be put in the position of having all your clothes off and they guy saying.. ummmmmmmwelllll I don't have one.. what do you want to do....? I don't think so!
2006-11-02 07:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by .... 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hard one to answer without knowing you. On one hand, one could say he was prepared, but on the other, one could say he was being a bit presumptuous.
In either case, it's safe to say he was hoping for sex on the first date, which could be a reflection of him, or a reflection of how he views you.
I don't think you have enough to go on right now to call off a relationship, but I would say if he continues to see you without your having sex with him, then the relationship can progress normally. If he is only out for sex, he won't stick around much longer.
Best of luck!
2006-11-02 07:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by disposable_hero_too 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello,well when a man carries condoms it doesn't exactly mean he wants sex.He may think of the safety of you both,in case it did happen he just where being careful.I understand where your friend is coming from if he's carries condoms that would be the first thing you would think of.But not many men have condoms.If he didnt care he wouldn't have none,but just be careful if you both do decide to have sex please do use a condom,its your safety that comes first,dont be forced into any thing you dont want to do its your happiness that matters,you dont want to be thinking you wish you never.
2006-11-02 07:16:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋