Ok, I managed to get through highschool with honors and I graduated in the top of my class. I never dated any one and I focused on my education. Now that I am in college I am getting kind of lonely and I see all the other girls with bfs. I really want to start dating, but I really dont know how to. I dont know how dates work or any of that kind of stuff bc I focused my on my work. I always have guys who stare at me, but they act like they are scared to talk to me, then the others always assume that I am taken. I want to have a better social life with guys but I dont know where to begin. I was raised very conservatively, so I have never kissed or done any of the other stuff. I want to find a good college guy that is gonna be willing to respect my decision to abstain from sex. I have never had a problem with guys looking at me, btu they never actually come up 2 me. I dont understand the logic behind this. Do I need 2 wear tight clothes to attract them so they will come up 2 me?
2006-11-02 07:01:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, I know physical looks are not that important, but I want 2 describe myself to see if I am considered attractive to them. People always say that I am very cute. I am 5'3 128lbs. Most of the time people think that I am a lot younger than what I am. My measurements are 36-27-38. Is this considered attractive or do they prefer the skinnier girls?
2006-11-02 07:04:29 · update #1
No you don't need to wear tight clothing or anything to demean yourself.
Be proud that men respect you and don't see you as a sex object, especially since you have made a wise decision to abstain from sex till marriage.
God has the right person for you and you two shall meet in His timing.
God bless!
2006-11-02 07:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by egg_sammash 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one without me just being straight upfront with you. Now I get your situation. But the part about you wanting a boyfriend and you also want to abstain from sexual contact. In college, those 2 don't usually mix. But there is a chance that it could happen. I'm not saying that it's hopeless. Wearing tighter clothing is just going to draw the wrong attention if you're truly the type of girl that you described above. A change of clothing wouldn't hurt but not too tight. You still have to breathe. Why don't you look on the bulletin board, see what type of activities are going on, see what you're interested in maybe look around for a part-time job and start meeting people there. But because you write somewhat timid I do want to say "please watch out for those tired a*s mean girls!" Don't trust so easily! Have eyes in the back of your head, Don't act or be naive or gullible. Because people can tell when you're from either out of town or not from that area. Good luck on finding the right guy. If you ever want to talk, just click on my sign on name and write you back.
Good Luck w/College-Go get em girlfriend!
2006-11-02 07:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
O hell no! Dont start dressing to impress that much! You seem like the type of girl that guys are only afraid to talk to because you are intelligent.I don't think that you should try to attract guys by dressing in tight clothes.
The right guy that is attracted to an intelligent women will find you. I would suggest just participating in school funtions or go to a few parties (not to wild though!). But just be yourself, that always works better.
2006-11-02 07:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean, though I was a bit older when I realized all this since I had been so busy with school work too! I think you can find good guys in your work too? I really don't know what to tell you because so much of society today are shallow people! And I have the same problem. It's as if you took the words right out of my mouth or read my mind!
2006-11-02 07:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go the "tight clothes" route...The guys will think you are easy. That's false advertisement in their eyes. You can be sexy without tight clothes anyway. Wear clothes that are tasteful and accent one of your favorite parts. Example, a shirt that brings out your eyes. Most guys I know (I had a lot of guy friends growing up) didn't ask girls out because they were afraid of rejection. If a guy smiles at you, smile back and say hi. If he tells a joke, laugh. Just relax and be yourself. Don't throw yourself at him, but act interested if you have a conversation. Ask questions or for advice. If you think he may be interested, ask him if he wants to grab a bite to eat sometime. The worst he can do is say no. He may just be too shy to ask you out. Get involved in activities or clubs or a church group that you may have a chance to meet someone with the same interests as you. In any event, love usually happens when you least expect it anway. Good luck!
2006-11-02 07:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop looking!! I know its hard especially when you want one so badly but as soon as you stop looking and just chill tends to be when the right guy comes. I had had a rough time with some bads ones and i had just given up. Thats when i met my fiance! and also you dont want a guy who needs tight clothes to be attracted to you. And be easy going. Maybe guys really are scared or intimidated. A beauftiful woman can do that. So take it easy and strike up a little conversation with them. You don't have to put the moves on or anything just say hey. And if you want a conservative guy go to events at your "place of worship" or other organizations that are also conservative.
Good luck
2006-11-02 07:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just relax, be yourself and just enjoy a social life with friends and just maybe it will happen without trying too hard. There is no hurry. If you want to find a nice guy then perhaps you might meet a friend of a friend socially and find out they are nice before dating them rather than trying to attract men who in tight clothes and come up to you
easier said than done but good luck
2006-11-02 07:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by The Mad cyclist 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to get together with some of the girls at school and attend 'group' things. When you start to get to know people and then feel comfortable, then you can start checking out who it is that you would like to get to know and you can initiate a casual, comfortable date, or better yet, get one of your new gal friends to introduce you to some guys that they know will treat you right. Networking is always, always the best--be it at finding a job--or love! Good luck. Oh---and always be yourself--forget the tight clothes. You don't want to be accused of giving off the wrong message yourself do you? It will happen. Just learn how to 'work it' to your advantage, and start today by making some girl friends that would be willing to help you. There are lots of us out there!
2006-11-02 07:10:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't compromise your principles to get a guy (wear tight clothes). Do you have a girlfriend that could arrange a double date with her, her date and another guy? If not when you see guys looking at you, say hi. Or, join a club that represents one of your interests. Work on projects and you will meet someone in more casual circumstances. Then you will be relaxed enough to strike up a conversation, if they appear reluctant to do so.
2006-11-02 07:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by nyasasmom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to some guys at the club or in your classes. Then work your way from there. Let them know that you are interested in them but don't come on to strong. No you don't really need to wear tight revealing clothes. The guys that I talked to do not really respect the girls that look like "hoes". Just be yourself
2006-11-02 07:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly*princess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋