In the beginning of this year, two beautiful girls were placed in my care. The girls were at the age where they start to loose their teeth. The youngest of the two lost her first and her second tooth while she was in my care.(Her older sister also lost a tooth) The girls were place back at home recently and now the mother wants the teeth. I grew a huge bond with the children throughout the months we shared and it was devastating to loose them. Since the girls were with me when they lost their teeth, would it be wrong to keep them? I have three teeth. I feel the mother has a valid point but its all I have left of them. I need some advice. Am I being a baby about this? Should I give the mother their teeth? Do I even have the right to keep them?
2006-11-02 07:00:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it is irrelevant who has the teeth, they may get lost or misplaced over time, what is relevant is the memories and the wonderful time that you had with these children. Keep pictures and see if you can keep in touch with them. The teeth I think is a very small part of this, I doubt that either one of you would have a case in a court of law.
2006-11-02 08:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but she is the mother, therefore she has the right to ask for their teeth back. Bond or not, you are not the biological parent and as long as she is trying to be a mother to them, you should do the mature thing and give the teeth back. Instead of keeping the teeth, you could have taken pictures to look back on.
2006-11-02 07:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being a baby about it, I certainly understand your bond and your desire to hold onto SOMETHING.
However, consider the mother's point. She missed out on something very special in her children's lives.
I don't know what the situation was when they were placed with you, but since she has them back, she may be trying to get her life back on the right track and wants to catch up with them as much as possible.
What if you ask for something from the girls? You know, kind of like a trade?
Have their case worker explain your bond with the girls to their mother and ask for them to make you something or get some pictures. Try to come to a compromise that will give you a piece of them that maybe doesn't mean so much to their mom.
Good luck!
2006-11-02 07:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fostering children means temporary care for children. The children have their mother and that mother as sadly as it may be, it's not you. I am a grandmother and would love to keep my grand baby's lock of hair since I was the one that took her for her first hair cut. BUT, this is not my child. So learn to love and accept that you are temporary, They will remember you as some one that was good to them but their memories do not belong to you, they belong to them and their family.
2006-11-02 07:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by latina44572002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the mother that you dont have them
2006-11-02 07:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Cassey L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep them, they'll loose more teeth.
2006-11-02 07:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Alessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do have the right but if the mom wants them then go ahead and give them to her, or talk to the foster agency and ask this questain to them
2006-11-02 07:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do and i compleately understand KEEP them anyways the mom does not deserve them she was not with them when they lost them YOU were so just keep them ...
good luck.
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2006-11-02 07:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by *********** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋