I've been with my guy over a month now, and i keep asking him out, and pay the way. He comes round mine all the time, i live with my little boy. but can't go to his as he lives with his parents and my boy isnt allowed there due to their dog. I've paid for drinks here and taken him to my sisters huge halloween party, but still he hasnt offered to take me out for a movie, or a meal - or at least a walk, I know im probably sounding a bit selfish but surely i shouldnt have to keep paying?
2006-11-02 06:42:30 · 11 answers · asked by happyglitterthatrocks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy either has no clue about correct and polite behaviour or he is taking you for a ride. It seems he thinks you do all the giving and he does all the taking. This isn't an equal partnership so not a good basis for a relationship. I'd tell him to sort it our or move on.
2006-11-02 06:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dating the wrong guy--he's not a player he's an user. He probably thinks he's hit the 'gravy train' or else he's so accustomed to his parents paying all the bills he doesn't have a clue. If you're living on your own with a son, you probably have a clue about the real world. But this guy can't be totally new to the idea that a guy pays for dates....and his own way in this world. You've only got a month invested in this relationship---are you sure he's worth more of an investment of your time and money. If he's this stubborn now...it's unlikely he's going to be fun partner in the future. I'll guess and say that he tells you he's a 'homebody' and that's why he doesn't want to go out. Maybe he's hiding something else...maybe he doesn't want to be seen with you...and maybe he's just weird. He sounds weird to me. You can pay your own way when you're out with the girls. There is something definitely wrong with this situation. Stop asking him to come over to your place, stop paying ....just stop.
2006-11-02 14:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't selfish at all! If he has a job then this isn't right! Of course if he doesn't have a job then maybe he doesn't want to ask you to something he can't afford. Of course, going for a walk is free...
The fact of the matter is, this cannot continue. You're putting everything into this relationship and he doesn't seem to appreciate it.
The relationship is a month old. You should be able to bring it up and discuss the issue with him by now. Otherwise what's the point of going on with it?
2006-11-02 14:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sure not being to selfish, so don't even think that.
I had me one of these last summer. He was just useing me. But I was in a new place and knew no one, so I guess you could say, I was paying to have friendship. He did a couple times pay, but it was at like MCDonalds, and I'd taken him to real nice places in New Orlenes. He aslo didn't drive or have a car, so I was the ride too.
He wasd useing me for the time it lasted. But it was my fault for putting up with it.
2006-11-02 14:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really consider this a problem, you can confront him with this, just be honnest. If you really mind about it, and don't tell him, it will become more and more important in your mind and could end up being the cause of arguments. But are you sure that he can pay ? Maybe he has financial problems.
You can also stop inviting him for a while and see if he calls you.
2006-11-02 14:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Nono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel he might not realise how uncomfortable you are with paying for everything.
However I would be a little suspicious that he constantly comes round to yours but you can't go to his 'because of his parent's dog'. If the dogs that dangerous they shouldn't be allowed to keep it.
I'd be wondering if there was another reason!!!!
2006-11-02 14:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW. He is a free-loading, selfish git and won't change.
2006-11-02 14:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not selfish - he is. Don't put up with it. You deserve better than him.
2006-11-03 08:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. he sounds like a loser. you are not selfish and can do better than that.
2006-11-02 14:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by grumpcookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aint selfish! your too soft get bitchy about it and he will cave in.
2006-11-02 14:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ben B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋