My parents gt divorced a long time ago an thy ave both got re maried, the only problem is i dont get on wit eithr of my step parents. I dont want to tell my parents bcuz i dont want 2 hurt there feelings. As any1 got any advice thy can giv me????
2006-11-02 06:42:20 · 8 answers · asked by xxhurting_insidexx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't do what I did and keep it inside. You should be the first priority in your parents life. As a parent myself I can tell you this much, I thought I knew love until I had my daughter. There's nothing she couldn't come to me for and I'm sure your parents have the same unconditional love and respect for you too. The key is how you approach them. As you may already know, the "I'm right, you're wrong, my way or the highway" attitude doesn't go very far. If this is a real problem, you need take some alone time with your parents and find out what attracted them to their new spouse. Maybe then you can see your step parents in a different light or maybe it will just lead to a mutual understanding. DON'T SWEEP THIS UNDER THE RUG. Good luck
2006-11-02 06:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by woolly_bully_98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless they are mean to you or are doing something that is wrong that is causing you to feel this way, something your parents should know about, then keep quiet.
Not liking someone isn't a good reason to create something that will effect your whole family. People like people for different reasons and sometimes the chemistry is just not there.
Remember, it isn't your step parent's job to get along with you, it's your job, as their child, to try to get along with whoever they choose to marry. Your parents though enough of them to marry them, so take a second look, you must be missing something.
Integrating new people into a family is really hard, and it's twice as hard for the people coming into an established family. That could be the reason you don't like them. Be objective and then try being different around them. If nothing else, they will see that you are making an effort and that could make all the difference in the world.
Good luck.
2006-11-02 06:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, Dr. Laura would bash both your parnets for remarrying when they have kids with someone else...
I am a product of the same thing... I didnt like either of my step parents as they both had their own agendas. they came first to my parents over us kids. The step mom spent our child support we NEVER saw it. My step dad wanted ALL my moms attention and we were in the way.
Its a brutal thing. Your parents are in the wrong. I can't tell you how to handle it except dont let it change you. Keep who you are close to you, otherwise you can become bitter. Your parents are wrong! You should come first and that is that.
Hugs-
2006-11-02 06:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not blame the step parents, they have done nothing to you. You have the problem. and you need to learn to get over it. If both of your parents, love their spouses, then you should be happy for them. Stop being jealous of them. that is what it is. when you get older, then you will see it. Now you have to start to work on yourself, You have to except the things that you can not change. Feel good about yourself, then you can feel good about others. So try love, or respect, it will get easy in time. Do the things that you have to do, so you can keep peace in the household. Try and be nice to your step parents. and you will feel better. I hope everything works out for you!
2006-11-02 07:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long is 'along time ago?' I only ask b/c my husband's parents have been divorced and remarried for over 20 years and he is sometimes still at odds with one or both of them.
It is just something you learn to deal with as you mature.
My husband was told that not liking you step parent is a result of the idea of that person replacing your biological parent and it is just hard to deal with.
Don't worry, you are perfectly normal, and I am sure both of your parents realize that you don't feel the same way about their spouses as you do about them.
Honestly, you may never really LIKE your step parent. My husband has never called his father's wife his 'step mother,' ever. He simply refers to her by her first name and that's it, and after 20+ years, it is just a fact of life and that's about it.
2006-11-02 06:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
...I kind of grew up like that...my dad's new wife completely shut us out...and I kind of got used to it...I lived at my mom's and she got remarried, I used to blow up at my step father, but now that I am older I realized that...As long as they make my parents happy, I am happy...
2006-11-02 11:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Duuuude no waaaay! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work through it day by day i didnt like my situation like that either and now i realy like my step dad. its hard belive me but just keep going eventually things will stop bothering u about them
2006-11-02 06:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by jenna h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it. They are adults that made choices and as their offspring you have no say in the matter.
2006-11-02 06:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋