whats going on here ladies?

Question

if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this

hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .

so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?

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34 minutes ago
and then she just sent this message to him today


"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"

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21 minutes ago
i should also add that she has been calling/texting him since the begginning of july . . . he tried to get her back for 2 months after she broke up with him. . . they broke up for no reason . .. she just told him she wanted to date around .. . . and she texted him on what would have been there two year anniversary and reminded him of it

Answer 1

He must have really rocked her world. Tell him to keep giving her the silent treatment. She'll get over it, eventually.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to say it, but you just need to leave her and let her be for right now. She's obviously not over him. She may keep trying to contact him because she feels guilty for dumping him, especially if there was no reason for it. It's one thing if she thinks about him now and then and hopes that he's doing well. But it's another thing if she's incessantly trying to get in contact with him when he's blatantly not responding back. He may be just as confused as you are. Actually, she's probably somewhat confused herself. Considering the two of you have only been going out for two months, I think it's in your best interest if you end the relationship now. She needs time to figure out how she really feels about her ex. It's not fair to you to be staying in the realtionship if she's not putting time, effort and care into being with you. She's taking you for granted and you don't deserve that. She might be insecure with herself. Perhaps she feels like she always needs someone to depend on. If you want, you could tell her that you need time apart from each other so that she can figure out what's more important to her...you or her ex. If she really sees herself caring for you, she'll stop these desperate attempts at staying in contact with her ex. Let her know exactly how it makes you feel when she tries talking with her ex. Since your relationship is new, she might not realize how this whole situation is affecting you. I know it can be hard to reveal your inner thoughts, but sometimes it just needs to be done. You definitely shouldn't continue going with how things are right now. It's not good for your mental health. Also think about what things you like about her. And ask her what things she likes about you? What drew you to each other? What kind of things has she done to show her affection for you? How do you define a relationship?In your opinion, what qualities does a girlfriend need for a successful, meaningful relationship? You need someone who is there to support you and make you feel good about yourself. I hope this helps in some way. Good luck.

Answer 3

Honey just tell that she has to decide where she wants to be either with you or with him. Her constant contact with her ex is where all her energy is going instead of towards you and for you to stand by and wait is not right or even fair. She has got to let go or you will have to let go of her!
To even have a relationship there has to be only two people involved not three and they give it their all to make it work.
I know it will be hard to break up but in the long run it might snap her out of her obsession and come back to you.

Answer 4

I really hope that she isnt using u as a rebound.. also to does she know that u know about her texting him and calling him... U really need to know what it is she wants from u? U shouldnt let her keep leading u on like she is.. yea im gonna tell u. A girl can pretend everything is ok on the outside and hurt deep down.. Im thier and dont know how to let it out and tell this person how i feel...crazy huh

Answer 5

she's a pyscho RUN! she may not even still be in 'love' with him (if she's capable) this is a sure sign of someone with a personality that if she's denied attention - she'll keep coming back for more! He obviously wants nothing to do with her and she's pathetically seeking his attention... you should discontinue going out with her - she's not stable and unhappy with herself - if she was truly happy with herself she'd focus on you and your relationship... When someone can't let go it's obsession (amongst other things) and she's not going to realize this unless she seeks some sort of help... You can't love somone else if you don't love yourself ... she obviously doesn't love herself! she feels she's been dumped and humiliated and wants to know why... rather than feeling I'm better than this and deserve better and to share my love with someone who appreciates me - she goes for the guy who ignores her and doesn't want anything to do with her... it's pathetic really....

Answer 6

It could be that she just really wants to remain friends with him, but if he's not responding and she's not giving up, she's more like a stalker.

Either way, it doesn't sound like she's being true to your relationship. If I were in your shoes, I'd put myself back on the market.

Answer 7

It sounds like she's not over him yet, but he's over her. And she did tell him she wanted to date around...
Bring it up right to her face. Or you can play her game and send e-mails and stuff to your ex. Who, I might add, doesn't have to really exist and it will just give her a taste of what she's doing.
It sounds like her feelings for you aren't that deep or he would be totally in the past. Sorry if that hurt you. It might not be true.....talk to her.

Answer 8

I think she used you to try to make him jealous & it back fired.Now,,she may really want to be with you but is not letting the other guy go.Id confront her.Either she stops or move on.Id suggest that you just move on because obviously she has not.Could it be that she just needs a friend?Does she have any other friends?

Answer 9

if you are this upset with her then you should talk to her about it...if she blows you off when you ask her about it,i would just leave her because if anyone in a relationship wants to keep in contact with her/his ex then something is up.especially if she is tryin to keep it a secret.

Answer 10

hmm, that's a tricky one. it's weird how the female mind works. maybe she has a hard time letting go. you should talk to her about it and ask her. don't be confrontational, just act worried and ask if there's something wrong.