Ive met this amazing guy, hes kind, considerate, hansom, intelligent ambitious hes really lovely. Known him for 2 mths, we went away the other night and had sex for the first time, he isnt well endowed down below, he pleased but i was rather dissappointed. The next day I didnt really want to spend the whole day with him for some reason, i did an really enjoyed spending time with him. Today im confused can anyone help whos been in the same situation? I
2006-11-02 06:41:19 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I once dated a man with a very "strange" looking penis. It was also pretty small and it just bothered me. I found myself avoiding him after our first time and in fact the next morning I could not get away fast enough. But I really liked him. He was such a great guy and I was so attracted to him and connected to him in every way. I just couldn't get over the penis thing. He was VERY good however at giving me oral pleasure - so that evened things out a bit.
Things didn't work out for us because I went back to my ex - but I really don't know if I could have gotten over the penis issue - seem shallow I know. I hope its different for you. It is hard to find a good guy!
Whatever you do - dont tell him! Men freak out about that. My guy was so proud of his - I was kindof embarrased for him.
Good luck!
2006-11-02 06:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by hunnyimissu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as anybody will disagree, a healthy relationship has to appease both sides to a certain extent with both mental AND physical attractions.
Obviously you like him mentally. But if he's not physically appeasing too in the long run you will be dissappointed and promote infidelity.
Try it again a few more times with him. See if he can please you in other ways. If he can't, I'll tell you right now that the relationship won't work in the long run. Unless you are a super virutous person.
Some people have different requirements for attractions.
Some enjoy sex more then others. There's nothing wrong with either way. Different bodies, different chemisties.
2006-11-02 06:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by chickenpoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the only thing that is wrong with him is the size of his manhood but everything else is on point, I think that you should give him a chance. I mean really, would you rather have someone larger but didn't know how to treat a woman? I mean, you can teach this guy how to better please you if it came down to it. They also have ways to make your manhood larger. So there are ways around that. However, its going to be a bit more difficult trying to show someone how to be considerate, intelligent, ambitious, and really lovely. Think about it.
2006-11-02 06:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he sounds great... The kind of someone you would be able to share your life with... The fact is you said he "pleased"!!
If he pleased you, then surely that is a start..
I can understand why you are confused, he didn't meet your expectations, but maybe they were a little high.. Maybe he was just a little nervous.. If you like him then size shouldn't matter.
But if it's that much of an issue, please let him down gently or you will scar him in future relationships and that would be unfair to him and the person who he COULD make very happy.
Good luck
2006-11-02 07:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by KJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. I've been there and I couldn't cope with it. Size does matter if a 10 year old can put you to shame. In my opinion there are 2 aspects that need to be considered. 1) Quality of the person. 2) Quality of the sex. You can't stay in a relationship with someone who is great in the bedroom and treats you like dirt. The same is true that you can't stay in a relationship with someone who treats you wonderfully, but is unsatisfying sexually.
2006-11-02 06:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - If he's that good make sure he isn't gay.
You need more time to explore each other.
Life dosn't revolve around the girth or length of a penis!
He might be small but know how to do things to you that other blokes can't (if you know what i mean) with other part of his body.
If you enjoyed his company then that is what you will be with most of the time, not in bed.
Give it a go. That's how you will find out if it's right.
good luck (and love perhaps?)
2006-11-02 06:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by andipandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at the beginning of the question, you seemed really happy with this guy but when you got to the part where he wasnt well endowned you seemed to not be happy with him! Size doesnt matter, but if your not happy with him tell him that you just want to be friends! Dont string him along! Hope it works out!
2006-11-02 23:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just didn't add up to you expectations down there. Maybe you are a bit nervous and embarrassed for him. If he's really has all these great qualities, then you'll learn to look past the one small flaw.
2006-11-02 06:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was the sex honey. i've seen it before. you don't love him therefore it was hard for you to accept his small you know what. if the sex would have been good then you would not hav felt this way. but now the relationship will probably go down hill for you. so if you want to save it then you better find ways for you to enjoy your "alone time" with him as much as he does
2006-11-02 06:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are extremely turned off by the fact he isn't sexually satisfying. Try again but walk him through what you like...some times it gets better after the 1st time....maybe he was nervous or something ?!?
2006-11-02 06:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by oppsy_poopsy123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋