her grades have slipped, she is in legal trouble., we have tried everything to help her--therapist--medicine, pyschaitry, grounding, totaol loss of priveleges, but they always seem to get to her. We live in Texas and I have made the decision to send her back to where I grew up in West Virginia, To get her enrolled in school up there, I need to fill out temporary gaurdianship for my mom to make decisions..this will only be for the rest of this school year and she will be brought back home..My question is do I go through an attorney to get this done or is there forms from the internet I can download and get notarized? Does any one know? Please no smart assed answers.
2006-11-02 06:40:48 · 21 answers · asked by rebecca c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
by the way we have tried EVERYTHING...there is nothing left for me to do except get her as far away from this enviroment as possible..I love my daughter and I am doing this too help her.
2006-11-02 06:46:28 · update #1
one more thing i wanted to add was that after her 7th grade year is completed, I will have her enrolled in a private christian school..and we are in process of buying a home in a different city. My husband and I cannot relocate, we just want ot help our daughter overcome this. no matter how hard we try, these gang members have more influence over here than we ever can.
2006-11-02 07:22:04 · update #2
Anyone who is under the impression that we are jusy trying to get rid of our daughter or we are just taking the easy way out..please do not even reply..you have no idea of the hell this family has been put through...sending my daughter away will break our hearts, but it will save her life!!! I am doing this to protect her...how dare anyone say anything about the easy road out!
2006-11-02 07:59:35 · update #3
First of all I commend you on the route you have chosen to take. I know I saw on your profile that you are in the Houston Texas area and I know first hand that gangs are out of control there. They get these innocent little kids and turn them into monsters..You are absolutely doing the right thing by removing her from that environment and unlike the idiot woman who posted you should just relocate and sacrifice everything, I do not agree with that, it sounds like you have done all you can do..The time away will give her the time to reflect on actions. and since you will be moving to a different city and placing her in a more safer school upon her arrival she should be able to pull through this. She is at the turning point, she will either continue to get worse--or this time away will turn her completely around. I cant imagine what this must be doing, you sound like a great mom who has already sacrificed alot for her well being and safety. Continue on with the therapy while she is in West Virginia and I think she will come back with a whole new attitude..good luck and god bless.
2006-11-02 09:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney, but you are doing the right thing! I was a social worker in new orleans before the storm and i saw this all the time. Most kids don't even have a chance, but you are being a good mom and giving your daughter a better opportunity. I guess you would not want to move with her. Sounds like a bad environment, you might need a change yourself and never bring her back there. She still has 5 years under your wing and the problems are not going to go away after 6 months. When you bring her back she will be faced with the same issues. Good luck
2006-11-02 06:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough one. Getting her into a different environment is definately a great idea. I would consult an attorney, but when you're on the phone with them, don't make small talk, just get right to the point because the will charge you, sometimes, by the minute. Or else you could contact your city hall to see what they have to say...I'm not sure they can take care of it, but they could definately refer you to the right place. Good luck--really. There's no appropriate age for any of this stuff to happen, but thirteen is incredibly young. It's good to know there are parents out there still who are aware of what kind of stuff is going on in their kids' lives--especially their teenagers. You sound like a great mom, stay in tuned with her. Maybe she'll gain a different perspective after spending some time away from home.
God bless you and your daughter.
2006-11-02 06:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by ak47_girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know that gangs were a problem in Texas. But I guess they're just about everywhere.....and I'm not trying to be smart. I would seriously consider group counseling. It worked for several of my friends who were troubled in their teenage years. Definitely consult with an attorney to grant your mom temporary custody. That should work. Give your daughter tough love and good luck.
2006-11-02 06:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just wondering why you and your husband can't relocate. I'd move heaven and earth to protect my child. I'm sorry, but how do you think she's going to deal with being with new people, in a new state, 1000 miles from everyone she knows and loves. Yes, I understand the situation is terrible, but I also think you're taking (ultimately) the easy way out. Rather than relocate the entire family to a better neighbor hood, you're just relocating the child.
You don't say how she feels about this, but if she's really in that bad of a situation, shipping her off to grandmas isn't going to solve the problem, and it's probably going to cause her more problems. You need to seriously re-think what you're planning on doing. You don't give up on your kids and that means that you and your hubby need to make some sacrifices to your life, not just to your daughters.
2006-11-02 07:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Allison S 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on the state....all I had to do for my nephew was go down to the court and fill out papers with his parents. It was only for 9 months because of a temporary transfer.
I don't know about West Virginia.
You are doing the right thing by removing her from the situtation. I'd consider moving the whole family. When she gets back...what will have changed?
2006-11-02 06:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by jm1970 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Bigotry, plain and simple. "not antisemitic or anything" but would rather die than marry one of "those people". What an @s$. It IS antisemitic, and sending messages to your future son in law or his parents can be construed as harassment, and by using a phone you are actually committing a crime. I suggest that you grow up and leave your daughter alone. She is happy, and you should embrace the source of the happiness, not push it away. If this is not possible for you then I suggest you invent a time machine and return to late 1930's Germany, or go to Palestine or something.
2016-05-23 19:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go to the attorney. even if there are forms online they might not answer all your questions or give you all the options. if you have someone face to face to discuss this with then that would be more helpful and informative. and since its something as important as ur daughter u dont wanna miss a chance or mess something up. but i applaud u sending her somewhere safer. that is absolutely the right decision. good luck and god bless :)
2006-11-02 06:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by jenivive 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably need an Attorney to help assign guardianship to your mom. You also need to find out why your daughter is rebelling so much. Don't take her to doctors, sit down with her and ask her about her feelings. Sending her away may be worse because you really won't have control over her and she may feel you are abandoning her and really get into more trouble over there. When kids are unhappy they find a way to cause problems, no matter where they are. Good Luck to you.
2006-11-02 06:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by ChicaLoca 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Attorney
2006-11-02 06:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by amoora 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋