I've been back with my ex for 6 weeks. I moved from London and from my friends to be with him. i'm not working, im a qualified nurse so i'm stuck in his flat alot, i've had a hard year. He told me i'm boring but i'm suffering from depression. today he got annoyed when i said that milk is good for your bones, (when he got a glass of milk). He said to stop treating him like a kid and to stop speaking down to him. when he isn't working he is on the internet, we hardly communicate because i'm finding it hard to have a laugh, as i have low self-esteem. Now lads, would you dump me, even if you found me attractive?
2006-11-02 06:32:39 · 13 answers · asked by tessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Looking from the outside in, it sounds like you are not the one who has a problem. It's your b/f. What you do for work and where you should live is something you have to figure out, but it doesn;t sound like a healthy relationship to me. You may have low self esteem but that is partly because of the way your b/f is treating you. I'm sure you will be much happier with another person, cuz your man has social issues of his own. Be brave and do what's best for YOU. The big plus is that being a nurse you can pretty go where ever you want. It's in big demand everywhere.
also, after taking a look at your previous questions, it's very clear that you are very unhappy and that you know that the right thing to do is leave. But for whatever reason something has been preventing you to do just that. Just do it and get it over and done with asap. The sooner you do this the better. Trust me
2006-11-02 06:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by Wibble 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being attractive or not shouldn't be the question. No I wouldn't dump you. People too easily run away from their problems. If he thinks your talking down to him well don't do it. You have to remember that the male ego is very fragile and we don't like being criticized. As for the low self esteem thing, you need to be around people that will like you for you and that won't be critical of you or things you do. Nobody can tell you whether to leave or not, that's something only you know. Trust your heart. You have to do what's right for you. In the end your happiness is the only thing that's counts.
2006-11-02 14:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by fr2fish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...move out...he's treating you like sh!t....just because your under his roof does not give him the right to treat you like that, if your stuck in the flat all day long, find the time to go out and find a place of your own, or move back to London, milk is good for your bones, but he don't know that yet, he sounds very controlling to me....as for speaking to him like a kid, he's acting like one right now so what other way should you treat him, my best bet is to get out because he's being a moron with you, and he's lowering your self esteem even more...don't allow him to make you feel like this any longer, tell him he either spends more time with you and treats you better or your leaving
2006-11-02 14:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes - YOU should leave. I think ur depression and low self-esteem is a direct reaction to his abusive behavior. If he really loved you; he'd protect you and keep his nasty, smartass, self-serving comments to his self. What was he expecting ur reaction to be when he made the comment about treating him like a child??? Maybe you should've said takes one to know one ;)
2006-11-02 14:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by smwzzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you know the answer already , go back to London and surround yourself with your friends and move on. it didn't work the first time round and it sounds like it's not going to now. good luck for the future.
2006-11-02 14:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by moonraker558 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to London, your friends, and work. He should have stayed an ex by the sound of it; he's not good for you.
2006-11-02 14:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wll first of all, I think you know the answer by the way you just described your relationship. But in my opinion, I think you should leave. I know that I wouldn't stay with someone like him. And did it occur to you that maybe he is a big part of the depression? (if it wasn't diagnosed before you met him).
2006-11-02 14:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Candice C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are only two friends for any girl. Her job and her money. Take it from me.
2006-11-02 14:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why ask?
It is clear that you are unhappy.
Go, look for another who treats you better.
2006-11-02 14:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his lying, cheating, hurtful *** and find someone new that will love you and only you.
2006-11-02 14:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by Chaka J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋