i've been with my man for over 2 years and now i feel like i'm not on his priority list. I know he loves me but the words feel empty. I've got someone else who's intrested and i would never cheat but i'm lonely, starving for affection, and pissed. My man acts like everythings okay and when i telll him i'm unhappy he calls me crazy and tries to make me feel guilty for wanting more of his time. I dont know what to do should I wait and hope he comes to his senses or clear the way for the new guy?
2006-11-02 06:19:57 · 20 answers · asked by sweetnsexyncincy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok.Im in the same position.Maybe that next guy wouldn't b no better if it was 2 escal8 2 what you & your b/f have...So deal w/ it...Keep in contact w/ the other dude...he may be there 4 you 2 rebound on...
2006-11-02 06:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by SyMoNe H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's one hell of a dilemma. You should tell your boyfriend about the other guy. At least be honest but not too honest, there is no need to reveal everything yet. You should sort this out early before anything drastic happens.
In my opinion, it's human nature to crave something that we don't have. So I guess it's natural for us to like someone else when we already have the one person we really love. There are times when you felt you connected with someone else, and you can even tell that the other person felt it too. But we always have a choice. We are not primeval beasts who jump at every opportunity we get. That's why even though there were many chances and opportunities I could have taken advantage of (without her knowing it), I never did anything that would betray the trust of the person I want to be with for the rest of life. Even if you promise yourself that it would be just once, it will just make it easier to do it the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc.. time around. That's just what I think.
2006-11-02 06:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, I am in the same predictament as we speak. My man and I have been together for almost 2 years and I feel just like you. He also says he loves me but I don't see it. And when I try to talk about our problems I'm being too "dramatic" or "dramatized". I think it's one of the hardest spots to be in. I don't really want to hurt my current man and hope that he'll change but when you're lacking...you're lacking.
I say, sit that boy down and tell him straight up how you feel. Make him listen to you. Tell him things need to change. Then, see if they do. Honestly, if they don't after you've had a serioius chat with him, they probably never will. As hard as it may seem, then it may be time to call it quits. You've got to be happy. Maybe, just maybe, he'll realize what he's missing. You don't know what you've got til it's gone.
Good luck girl!!
2006-11-02 06:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany6322 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you claim that your man isn't giving you what you deserve and that is affection. Do you honestly think that this other guy will. Most guys are sweet and show a lot of affection the first couple of months in a relationship. I think that your guy really wants to stay with you maybe you need to have a serious talk with him and if it is the same then go. Don't waste your time you are still young. but remember when you are trying to make a choice think of what you have in front of you and then think of what you will have. Good luck!!!
2006-11-02 06:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never cheat as this will put you at the disadvantage.if you are unhappy and your man won't listen then maybe you should leave him.the grass is not greener on the other side.you have the right to ask for what you need in a relationship,but that doesn't mean your partner is capable of giving you the support you need ,so move on.you can't change who a person is and some people are not romantic,or loving,etc.if you are unfulfilled then get out of this relationship and find a love for you that feels good,find a man who enjoys you and spending the kind of time with you you want.it's not wrong to know what you need,it is wrong to expect some one who 's unable to give it to you to give it to you.
2006-11-02 06:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you doing anything to warrent the time you demand from him? Make sure you are doing things to make him WANT to be with you and see how that goes. As far as the "new" guy, he's just a filler. The only reason you're even thinking about it is because your man isn't giving you what you think you need. Avoid that one at all costs or you'll lose the one you've got.
Maybe this is your problem and not necessarily his.
I'm just saying...
2006-11-02 06:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by rogerdbnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then break up? It's not like your married to the guy. It's true you love another guy who doesn't love you back but just ignore that fact. You don't love the guy your with now so break off with him already there's no point of being with him anymore because you don't see him that way. Breaking off it's the first step of getting closer to him. The more you hesistate the more your guy will be hurt. You can't love two guys, it might not even be love. you either love one more then the other.
2016-03-19 02:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a guy standpoint, he may not realize that anything is changed. As far as his priorities, what's changed in his life? New Job, School, Friends? Sounds to me like you should spend more time with your friends first, and see how he reacts. If it bothers him, then you have a nice starting point for a mend job on the relationship. If it don't, well...............
2006-11-02 06:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on him, just leave.
You are going down the road to nowhere, so don't waste time. If you stay, you only draw this thing out.
When you are going through your divorce 5 years after the wedding, he is going to say, "You knew I was like this when we got married. If you weren't happy then, why did you stay with me?"
2006-11-02 06:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that he does not care for you the way he did in the past. He is saying that you are crazy, that's a sure sign that he does not value this relationship much. It;s time to break up with him and start afresh with this new man. Hopefully, it will be better this time around.
2006-11-02 06:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋