My 2 1/2 year old is really good, untill we go in public. Everytime we go to the store or someone's house, he starts screaming and wanting everything and when we try to get on to him he'll hit us or kick and scream louder. There isn't much we can do, b/c if you spank them then people will turn you in, stupid. I try to talk to him, but he won't listen. What should I do?
2006-11-02 06:11:55 · 13 answers · asked by Wonderious 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Most children are good and then when you take them in public they show off, this is pretty normal for this age. And yes you can spank him, My children are older now, however I wish someone would have told me not to spank my child. However, since you are not comfortable with that, give him a time out, 2 mins is quite long enough for a two year old. And stick to it. when he misbehaves tell him he has to sit for 2 mins and not talking. He will figure out you mean business. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-02 06:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The next time he throws a fit throw one right back. It might be a little embarrassing but he'll get the picture. Start screaming and throwing your arms around be as loud as you can. Or just walk away. Don't go far but move to another room or another isle in the store and eventually he'll realize that he's not getting the attention that he wants and he'll quit. It may take a few times but he'll realize that he's not going to get what he wants by acting that way. It's all about control and him thinking if he acts that way you'll give in to him so stand your ground and whatever you do DO NOT GIVE IN!!!!!
I've been there I have a 4 your old boy....
2006-11-02 14:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why he acts that way, he knows you won't do anything. Kids are not stupid, they learn fast. 2 things to try, first let him know everyone is watching him, sometimes that embarrasses them enough to stop. If that doesn't work, on their upper arm, wrap your hand around to the underneath, take your fingers and push on the bone in their arm. (try it on someone first to see what I mean) When he is acting up, just grab him like that, it hurts like hell when you squeeze. It will get his attention. It's not hard enough to leave a mark, because you're not doing any damage, it just hits a nerve. He might cry, but he'll quit!
If all else fails, they put bathrooms in public places. Take him in there and spank him. I really don't abuse my kids, but after 5 of them, you learn some tricks. LOL
2006-11-02 14:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the others have said, you just leave. Before you go out, tell your kid once that the moment he starts behaving like an ape, he gets strapped into something, you go straight home, and there is no fun that day. Don't discuss it with him, don't give him more than one chance, just pick him up, strap him into the car, and go home immediately. No fun for him. If you're visiting a friend, let her know as soon as you arrive what your plan is so you won't seem rude when you leave. End of problem.
2006-11-03 02:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring some of his fav toys with you, when he misbehaves put them in "Toy Jail" a clear tupperwear and tell him they will stay in there for two sleeps(nights). When you get home put the tupperwear where he can see it. When he asks for them remind him what he did wrong and how many sleeps are left before he can get them back.
Remind him again that he needs to behave and what he did wrong when you give them back.
This will work better if you use it at home too. Consistancy is key so if you are spanking at home and doing something else in public it will be less effective than doing something in both places, no matter what you decide to do.
Best of luck
2006-11-02 14:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're at the store with him and he begins acting up, you just have to pick him up and leave. Leave your cart, items etc. (some stores you can ask them to hold onto your cart, etc. and tell them you'll be back so you don't have to go through and get everything again) and then leave the store. Once you have left and are in your car explain to him that the behavior is unacceptable and that is why you had to leave the store. Then you can either go home and return to the store without your son or you can try again and if he begins to act up again you just have to leave again. It may be frustrating to continue to have to leave in the middle of your shopping/outing but the more consistency you have with your son in showing him that his behavior is unacceptable the easier it should become to take him with you.
Hope this helps, it will get better with time!
2006-11-02 18:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You take him out of the public place so you don't disrupt everyone else's shopping/dining/visiting experience. You do this consistently the moment he acts up. Sure it's an inconvenience, but it's your responsibility to turn the monster into a considerate person. Do not reward bad behavior, ever.
2006-11-02 14:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know it's inconvenient, but as soon as he starts misbehaving, leave. Where ever you are and no matter how inconvenient. Tell him as you're driving away that when he acts like that, he won't get anything and you will leave where ever you are from now on when he acts that way. And stick to it. It will be inconvenient for you, but he's going to keep acting that way until he has consequences for it that are stuck too. Besides that, it's not fair for everyone else to have to listen to your son throw his fits. Good luck!
2006-11-02 14:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by bradys_mommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give him a time out. IF you have your car with you...strap him in his car seat, and go back to visiting. I KNOW how cruel this sounds, and so far i have never had to go these lengths, but i woudl do it in a heart beat!!!! if i had too. Now the trick is, if you in public....still do it, but walk to the back of the car, or somewhere close by, where he cant see you, but you have your eye on him the whole time. This sends him themessage that his tantrum isnt working for you, and hes not going to get what he wants. If your just at a friedns house....do it, and go back in and visit for a bit...2-3 minutes, then come back and see if he has changed his mind about his behaviour. I bet this would only take once or twice...but once he doesnt get the reaction he is looking for, he will stop!!!! right now it is a game! and he thinks he has WON!!! BUT take control and show him your the boss!!!
2006-11-02 14:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by bangbanks72 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Time.... time is the best medicine..... He will outgrow everything...
My son never had those "terrible two's" but now that he's almost 3.5 he's become more defiant. It's hard and stressfull, but I remind myself that he'll soon become an adult. All I can offer is my love and patience.
Good luck mom!
2006-11-02 14:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by MD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋