what shoud i do?

Question

I dated this guy in high school for a year. We were great together. We broke up because we went to seperate colleges. We stayed friends but we were about to date again. We care and loved each other a lot. We had said we just wanted to be friends (only because we both wanted to look stronger than the other) but in reality we wanted to be together. I was heart broken when he said he wanted to be friends and I hooked up (one time) with an ex I dated a year before. I ended up getting pregnant (just my luck). things didnt work out and I didn't plan on them working out with the childs father. I talk to my high school sweetheart again, but I really do love him. I want to be with him, but I kow having a kid merkied up the water. What do you think he is thinking about me? Do you think I still have a chance?
Just to let you know I am a good mother and if a guy wont love my child as much as me I wont be with him. FYI for those who might
think I dont care about my baby,

i was on birth control. the shot actually. so i did protect myself there. thats why i said just my luck

Answer 1

You screwed up, literally. But everyone has a chance, and you're not going to know what's going to happen unless you try. And if the baby is young then you a lot better chance. So don't wait and later on regret about it. Just call him.

Answer 2

First off I would like to say that I do not know much about being pregnet but I would like to say that I have been in one of these situations before. I think that you might have a chance with this guy but you got to give him time to adjust with you having a baby before you become to serious with him. Let him know how you have really felt about him the last couple of years, and tell him you made a huge mistake. Whatever happens just let him know you will always be there for him. I believe you are a great mother and a friend. Good luck and be careful.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I have always believed in Honesty. Write to him and explain how you feel. Including the part about dating an ex and getting pregnant. Leave it to him to make the next move. Write your name and phone number and address in the letter. If he does not contact you within a month I would say it does bother him and you will have to move on. By writing him a letter it gives him time to think without the nervousness of responding right away or having to pretend he still likes you. There are no false emotions running around. Good Luck!

Answer 5

You answered your own question, hon......tell him how you feel and if he is funny about you having a child so be it......your child will always be there, but there is no guarantee on any man, no matter how perfect he may be!! The way I see it you are in a win/win situation, thanks to that beautiful baby of yours! Good luck!!! (by the way, I have dated exes from my younger years before, and it was never the same for me, too much time passed)

Answer 6

I think you passed up the guy you should have been with.

I think you just need to spend all of your time now in making your childs life as good as it can be realilzing that that chances of a single mother finding a guy who wants to have an "instant family" is extreamly small.

I think you now realize the importance of self control and birth control and hopefully will use them in the future.

sorry.. wish i could say just tell him and he will understand... but I've seen this kind of thing happen 4 times to different friends... and each time... it never panned out....

Answer 7

all you can do is contact him and see what happens. this time there is a child involved, so try not to play games with each other. i have seen so many relationships that could have been really great get left by the side of the road just because one didn't want the other to know how much they really cared. tell him how you feel, no matter what.

Answer 8

you have the right i deal, if he can not accept your child then you should not waste your time. He should forgive you for that after all you two was not together and it was his decision to be just friends. and if he can not get over it then you'll just have to let him go. Remember u should not regret the situation you was blessed with a child and many can not have one

Answer 9

um..... well if this guy really cares about you and you guys were broken up when you got with this other guy...well it's tough 'cause I'm assuming you're 23-24? well guys aren't usually ready to settle down at that age especially with someone with baggage (excuse my expression) But what ever the case may be you're absolutly right, your child comes first, if can't accept that..move on...one more thing...WHY DIDN"T YOU USE PROTECTION??????????

Answer 10

I think you should give it a shot, besides whats the worst thing that could happen, he doesn't want to. I would do it just to see what his reaction would be!!! And as far as the child is concerned, thats your child and if the child is the issue thats his loss not yours!!!