I met this girl who is fantasic, but she says she just got out of a 5 year relationship and needs some time alone. Do girls really need that time to themselves or is it a polite way to say I'm not interested?
2006-11-02 05:56:57 · 26 answers · asked by Nick T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no clear answer here.
Some girls need time some don't and it may be a polite way of saying she is not interested, each person is different.
When i got out of a long term relationship i did need some time alone (alone as in out of a relationship). When you spend alot of time with someone and then they are gone it makes a big difference in your life and some people need to know if it is right to be single again or if they want to be in a relationship and it takes time to find this out.
In other words you need to be out of a relationship to know if that is right for you. then if you decide you would rather be with someone you look for someone (but that's a whole new discussion lol).
This answer didn't turn out as i thought it would, i was disturbed half way through and i kinda lost my train of thought...sorry. lol
2006-11-02 06:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Julie1977 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a girl does need time after a relationship to recover. It can take from months to over a year, depending on how long and/or close the previous relationship was. Let the girl know that you're interested in being her friend, but don't take it any further than that until she's ready.
2006-11-02 13:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a little of both.
But yes, there is a "cooling off" time needed after a long term relationship ends. Especially if it ended badly. You just don't want to deal with anything that has to do with relationships for awhile!
It's not the same for everyone though, some people want to move on as soon as possible.
2006-11-02 14:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by MissJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she really just needs time to date others before settling down again. If I got a divorse today after 5 years...the last thing on my mind would be relationship. I would wanna go out and see what I have been missing the past 5 years of my life!! Chances are if she quit calling or coming by...she is just not that into you.
2006-11-02 14:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by clawbeaja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It honestly depends. I got out of a year long relationship and was fine, started dating again days later because I felt the relationship was over and it was for the best. Then again, I've had 4 month relationships where I couldn't move on afterwards, the breakup was sudden and I wasn't ready to move on. And then there's been relationships where I've decided to be single, so I can take time out and decide what I really wnat out of a relationship, and how to prevent the things that ended the last one.
2006-11-02 13:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by nyrockfan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes we really need time to ourselves after relationship because we have been through some bumpy roads with mens and their ways and sometimes being alone is a good way to cope when we have broken off a long term relationship and even short one. Give her some time, if you really like her and she wants to have something with you, just give her some space, she will come around.
2006-11-02 14:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, Girls almost absoluty need some time to themselves and you should understand, she spend 5 years with someone whom she was with all the time, and now she isn't. Not that she doesn't like you, or what a relationship with you but she needs some time to re-coop and get her life back on track.
If she wasn't interested she would just say so, Im sure.
2006-11-02 14:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley_Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that gave me shivers.
I just got out of a five-year relationship... would have been 5 years this August. Ended late June. I'm definitely taking some time to recover from the heartbreak...
don't want to write any more.
But yes. many people need time.
2006-11-02 13:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be either or, but most females do like to take some time for their selves after a long relationship. And it is in your best interest to let her because you do not want her to start a relationship with you and bring all of the baggage form the previous relationship with her.
2006-11-02 14:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by shaqmc21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is true. I got out of a 4 year relationship and tried getting into relationships with a couple guys but it never could work out. I have been single for two years now.
2006-11-02 13:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋