2006-11-02 05:56:27 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
HE IS 20 AND STARTING ON 18K A YEAR
2006-11-02 06:01:09 · update #1
SORRY BUT I SHOULD HAVE PUT UNDER"PARENTING". HE DOES NOT BUY HIS OWN FOOD OR ANYTHING ELSE .
2006-11-02 06:05:26 · update #2
how old is he?
2006-11-02 05:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I quit college and was just working and living at home, my parents started charging me $15 a week. At 20, I moved out on my own and have been supporting myself ever since. I was buying some things on my own while I still lived at home, as far as some food and drink, and shampoo and stuff if I didn't want to use what my mom bought for everyone.
2006-11-02 06:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a chat with him about his future! its tough enough out there saving to buy your first property and as his mother i find it strange you asking for board. If he is intending to save for a mortgage or rent would it not be better to help him out now than run the risk of having a mummy's boy at home when he's 30? really this will put the ladies off!! Nothing wrong with him taking responsibility for his own outgoings, make it clear that he should get used to buying his own food, clothes etc and a small contribution towards utilities bills wont hurt either. Hope this helps xx
2006-11-02 07:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by louise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't charge him to little he'll never leave, he'll use your house as a hotel, never save spend all his money on drink and expensive clothes. Why did I ever leave home!!!!!!!!!
Depends whether your washing, ironing & cooking for him, this to me is priceless. 18k a year is a good start, if doing all the above I don't think £250per month is to much to ask, if not more, heck it's gonna cost a lot more just to rent his own place.
2006-11-02 08:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it fair and specific. If he uses the phone most he should contribute directly to the phone bill, of course the food bill, and internet or anything else he directly uses, which would not be the same for everyone. It wouldn't be fair to charge him without letting him know what he's being charged for or charging him for things he doesn't use. Then work it out - what proportion of the average does he use in each area?
Finally, make sure that it isn't too frustrating a sum. If it works out to be too big a chunk of his salary, then ease things up a bit. Otherwise, make sure its his fair share. He will need to be responsible for what he does.
2006-11-02 06:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to pay my dad £250 a month, I don't know if it was a good thing or a bad thing. I certainly got a shock when I moved into my own place & realised £250 doesn't come close to the cost of living alone so you could say I was deluded! But if my dad had charged me full rent (for a one bed flat) I wouldn't have been able to move out. Paying rent to my dad didn't teach me the value of money, I ran up huge debts still paying them back actually but now I understand money doesn't grow on trees but that's only because I learned from my own mistakes.
You need to work out how much food he eats & if he's in all day on his days off he's gonna be using a lot of electricity for the month, you should probably ask him how much he has to pay out each month then decide how much to charge him. You can't fend for him for his entire life so don't listen to the people who say he's your son, you pay for him! Oh please!!!
2006-11-03 00:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he pay for his own food? Does he pay anything else around the house? How old is he? Assuming he is at least 16 and is earning a not very good wage - maybe start with just a nominal amount to get him used to the idea of financial responsibility - say 35. pounds a week?
2006-11-02 06:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you charge him £20 or £30 a month more than you decide on and put this aside for him in a little account or something. Then you can give it to him when he gets his own place and use it to buy essentials.
2006-11-04 09:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has only just started working and has a very low wage then kindness dictates that you don't charge him more than he can afford and that you leave him some to enjoy himself with. If you love your son you should not need to ask.
18K dollars or pounds?
2006-11-02 06:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your only supplying him with a board not very much, but if bed breakfast and all the trimmings then say fifteen percent of salary, this sounds fair. If he doesn't agree send him to the local travel lodge they charge £40 to £50 per night.
I think he will settle for fifteen percent.
2006-11-02 06:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say 4 or 5 hundred a month depending on if he has other bills, you don't want to leave him broke. if you are ok financially, put half of it into a savings for him and don't tell him. it will be a nice nest egg for him. he also needs to be introduced to the real world, and he's getting off cheap. if you make it too easy for him he'll be thirty and still living at home. Don't do his laundry either! he's an adult and needs to do it himself. make him be independant! he's your baby and its easy to just keep being mommy as you have always been! good luck
2006-11-02 09:42:28 · answer #11 · answered by Larissa D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋