it seems like my sisters are trying to ruin my relationship with my boyfriend, he confronted me and told me that it will probably be best if we move away from my sisters because if not it wont work out.... now what would you do? move or stay. what bothers me is that i do love my sisters and also my man and im torn.....
2006-11-02 05:55:49 · 11 answers · asked by SHORTY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all are your sisters the meddling kind?
You are now at the point where he's forcing you to chose and that does not look good. Yes family is important but there are boundaries. Are they crossing these lines?
you need to draw a line and keep them on it . And your boyfriend? Tell him ultimatums wont work because you are not leaving your family for anyone. Let him know you'll talk to them. Then let them know that you love them but you need to establish some privacy barriers in your love life and stick to it. They will respect you for it. After being mad for a while. But stick to it and you'll avoid this happening again with, say, your husband. Family can be nosy. Mine is. Was. I had to put my foot down and we are still close.
2006-11-02 06:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, there is nothing wrong with you loving your family, but they are also notorious for being interferences when it comes to relationships. Depending on how old you are and how serious the relationship is, I would consider moving. BUT I would not consider letting any man tell me I cannot talk to my family at all. Good luck hun!
2006-11-02 13:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister why she doesn't like him. But remember to really listen. If you can for a moment remove yourself from the picture and listen to her as if she is talking about someone else. A lot of the time people put too much of themselves into a situation to see it clearly.
2006-11-02 14:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Magus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who are you going to live with the rest of your life? Your man or your sisters? Spending less time with your sisters doesn't mean that you love them less. Make sure that they know that.
2006-11-02 14:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes family can see things in your man that you cant see. If they are older, then they are wiser and they may just see what you are in for while you are blinded by new love. Take a step back and see what is going on around you. Ask your sis why they are doing this to you.
2006-11-02 13:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by clawbeaja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what your sisters are doing. family comes first but if they are causing unnecessary trouble between you and your boyfriend then move. cause eventually they will cause problems with anyone you date. maybe try sitting down with your sisters and boyfriend and try to figure out what the problem is. they should all get along.
2006-11-02 14:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not having the fam on your side when with someone is VERY HARD.
Why not trying to get them together to get to know each other better.
Tell your man to be a gentleman and treat them witht he same respect as he would treat you. I'm sure that will win them over.
Good luck
2006-11-02 13:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your sister and the two of you can grow old TOGETHER.
2006-11-02 14:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, family is like arsenic. It's perfectly harmless in low dosages but enough of it will kill you.
2006-11-02 13:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to all of them before making such a drastic decision. maybe you can come to a compromise. maybe your man has ulterior motives for wanting to leave. be careful!!!!
2006-11-02 13:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋