She needed some space and I have been pretty good about it for almost a week. Last time I saw her, we told each other that we loved each other but she said she wasn't sure what she was looking for in the relationship. That was Monday. Is it too soon to ask her tomorrow if I am holding on to false hope? Is there a better way to word it? Can I even ask that or do I just keep waiting?
2006-11-02 05:51:11 · 13 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it's too soon. If you're being good about giving her the space, and working with her, you should be able to know what you're waiting around for.
2006-11-02 05:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, its not too soon to ask. A week is a good amount of time for a person to think on a situation. Any more time then that, then the person is just keeping you dangleing when you could be getting on with your life. You can start your question to her like this, if you wanted to.......... "I know to you it has only been a week, but as your thinking, I am here waiting. My life is being put on hold too. I need to know where my life is going, has the road for us stopped here, or is there more for you and I to journey together, I need to know, you need your space, and I need a direction to choose. My life can't stop because you need a pause button. After a week of space and time for you to think, I need to know where I stand in your life,, if I stand anywhere in your life at all. If not, I need to know, because I have a life to live to. I would like you to be in it, but if your not gonna be.......... I just really need to know. Life is too short to just keep me in a waiting room." I know I took it a little further then I expected. But, I do hope I gave you something to start with. I really wanted to help here........... I have been in the waiting room before, only to find out, that I was waiting and they had already let me go without telling me what they had decided. I was just put off on hold each time I asked him. I finally said what I suggested to you here, and I was told.............."I let you go a long time ago." See, love has no limits, and it has no time clock. But he made me feel stupid for loving him unconditionally , the way I still do. I hope you get the answer you are looking for. Blessed be.
2006-11-02 06:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would give her till next monday before asking b/c we women need time to think but i usually get all my thinking done within a week. And instead of saying false hope say a candle that will burn out soon. sounds much better.
2006-11-02 05:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by ♥PopLock&DropIt♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really think more of yourself than to put up with this emotional bs. The best think you can possibly do for yourself is to just move on. 'Love' doesn't ask for space and certainly doesn't wait for over a whole week to be determined. Get yourself a more emotionally stable girl...
2006-11-02 06:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll say this:
Even if you guys DO get back together, it'll never be the same. You'll feel like you are walking on egg shells and she'll feel smothered if she comes back too soon.
Give her what she's asked for - her space and when and if she realizes that her space isn't the same without you in it, she'll come back without the forced feeling she may have if you push it.
Leave her be, homey. If it were meant to be, she'll make it back to you.
2006-11-02 05:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by rogerdbnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend really does love you, she will give you the answers you want. She really can't just string you along and expect you to be there when she feels ready to committ. Honestly, she never should have told you she loved you if she was in limbo about your relationship together. You should simply ask her if she really wants to be with you or not, because it's not fair to you for her to do this.
2006-11-02 05:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by aerobee82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree you should be able to talk about anything. however in this instance i would be careful. make sure when you decide to talk to her make sure that you are both in a place you fell comfortable if either one of you feels tense or uncomfortable the conversation will be doomed from the start. other than that i wuld just be up front and tell her how you feel.
2006-11-02 06:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by sigmapi_razz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u wait and dont do anything ofcourse she's gonna dump u um just give yourself a deadline if u dont ask on that deadline something is wrong with that relationship
2006-11-02 05:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for the weekend. take her to dinner and explain how you feel. tell her yoru expectations of the relationship and see whats he says. ask her how she feels and what she is expecting. you guys need to thouroughly communicate how you feel or you wont get anywhere.
2006-11-02 05:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by keeping it real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new girlfriend. that will drive her back quicker than anything. then you have two girlfriends...just try to keep their names and birthdays straight.
2006-11-02 06:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋