Does age matter to guys?

Question

Hi I was going out with this guy. He is almost 23 and I am 28. I knew him 14 years now. Will the thing is he broke up with me because of my age and he knew my age and that I have a kid. We went out for a week and a couple of days. The thing is I am 5 1/2 older than him. I like this guy for the last 3 or 4 year and he like me the whole time he knew me is what he said. He tell me that he was braking up with me on my Myspace account. He won't anwer his phone or anything pretty much. he told me that he was looking for someone between 20 and 23. I ask if it was my fault why we broke and he said no that he wanted someone his age. Does guys not like women older than they are or do they have to be older than you. He kept on telling me that I need to find a guy my age and that likes kids. My friend which is her brother said he has never been like this. He told her when we first went out that he like me alot and that he wanted to be with me. He went after me and said that he love me and he alway

Answer 1

Well it depends. In your guy's case....he might have not liked the idea that: 1. The child may or may not accept him as a father, (it can cause drama..trust me), and he may want a child of his own.
2. He feels inferior due to the age, although it doesn't seem the case here...you never know.
3. It may be because he can't take care of you because he's still young and you're in a stable position so to speak.
4. Possibly made the realization that he wants someone his age, because he can relate better, and the fact that you'll age quicker than he does (trust me i've seen ignornat people say this.)
Those are my ideas on it. Now as far as overall does age matter? To me no...it doesn't....there are hoes older than me, and hoes younger...there are mature inteligent women older than me and just as inteligent if not more younger than me, and i'm 24 by the way. So really it SHOULDN'T.
BUT...it CAN be a problem if you date someone who's ignorant enough to see it that way. For example, I was a rebound to someone who was roughly 3 years ahead of me...not a big difference..yet she seemed to believe so. In fact it was annoying, i was more the young 'boy toy' that she fed off for sex, and yet she was yearning for a 'manly man' that supposedly i didn't meet because i was 'younger' and 'not yet ready for love'
It was annoying because one, i'm a grown *** man with a job, my own apartment, and a degree, not to mention i was moving up in the world slowly but surely, SHE, was induced to drama, had an okay job, been there for quite some years, apparently if time let it she'd be there another few years in a lower class position. Yet i'm the one who's immature, and doesn't no love, and can't handle it yet....of course being a boy toy didn't help my defense...simple mistake, but still you can see my point here i hope. So hopefully things will go well for you, he may have found interest in someone else, and thought it best to break up rather than cheat also...but give or take, age SHOULDN'T matter, but at times it does if people don't think out the box...and that's just my 2 cents on it..good luck.

Answer 2

I don't think age is his issue it is his excuse. He probably has an issue with you having a child or someone like his friends were talking smak about your age and child.
It is his loss. An older woman has a lot to offer while young men tend to be immature. I am 32 and my husband is 26, this is my second marriage. My first marriage we were the same age 21 and it did not work out.
I think it was the fact that my husband was in the military and went to war while we were dating that makes him a little more mature and responsible than guys his age. My little brother is the same age as my husband and you would never guess they were the same age.
I too had a child who was 3 when I met him and he is a great father and now we just had a new baby.
Find someone else and younger is O.K. If men can date hot young people we can too!!!!

Answer 3

I guess it is a personal thing.
I can't stand giggling airheads. So I mostly liked older women when I was younger.
I'm now 45 .... I still like women between 30-50.
OK the 20 somethings still can occasionally grab my attention but it's a crap shoot. I find tolerability more important as I get older.

Only Five years. This guy has some issues.
There are many fish in the sea.
Find the right one. Don't worry about age.

Answer 4

For some people age does matter, it's a personal preference the same way that some guys look at height, weight, eye-color, hair, etc.
It sounds like he has a problem with you having children, but is using age as an excuse. You said, "He kept on telling me that I need to find a guy my age and that likes kids".

Answer 5

In my case, No. My girlfriend and wife-to-be is 3 years older than I am. You should try to sort things out first, and if he still insists on his "age does matter" thing, then all he said about loving you and wanting to be with you is crap. Love transcends everything and even he should know that.

Answer 6

age dont matter he sounds like he is a dog and that does not want to have the responsability of a kid you will find someone who is better then he is and move on what you need is to not try to find a man let him find you. i always looked for the mr. right and then i got tired of it and let mr. right find me and now i am engaged and we a kid together and a daghter that is not his so things will work out just give time he will come to you when least expecting it mine did

Answer 7

Not nearly as much as you think!
I have dated many girls that are older than me, sounds to me like he found another girl or got made fun of by his friends for dating someone older than he is.

my advice, it happens, he is young and doesnt really know what he is doing, or wants to do, but cheer up there are plenty of reasons and oppertunities for him to come back, not to mention the fact that there are plenty of other younger guys out there who like a girl your age (if thats what you want).

Answer 8

Listen, he broke up w/ U not because this age thing, its because you have a kid. I say U move on NOW, don't waste time on him. Kid comes first and then boyfriend!

Answer 9

age doesnt matter to my guy, i am 2 years older than him, maybe he was concerned that people would think it was wrong, i don't think it was though, you need to move on from this guy b/c he didnt tell u to your face he was breaking up with u, there are many other men out there, good luck finding a good one b/c they are hard to find.

Answer 10

No, it doesn't matter.

My GF was 36 when she died. I was 31.

Still in love with her.

I have a buddy who is 23 his wife is 30 they have twins and are desperately in love with each other still.

He's just not that into you, sorry.

Drop me a line, we can share some sad stories.