I have a friend who lost her beloved husband from cardiac arrest almost the same time my other who lost her love 'cause her man left with another woman. Which one hurts most? And which one will heal faster?
2006-11-02 05:44:06 · 18 answers · asked by Rochelle5969 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that the friend who lost her husband is the one that would hurt the most. Death is not an easy thing to get over (I doubt cheating is either, but there's more anger there towards the guy than anything...) and you're going to miss that person for the rest of your life, until you can see them again.
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2006-11-08 06:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Cliff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Your heart does not forget, it learns to cope.
2. Both hurt a lot, but which hurts more depends on the person.
3. WHich heals faster is also dependent on the person.
Some will think the heart attack will heal faster because it was out of their control. Not always. The guy could have been 400 hundred pounds and ate at McDonald's every day. Afterwards, the spouse will go into depression and state, "Why didn't I stop him? It is all my fault."
Some never recover from thsi thinking.
2006-11-02 13:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by BusinessGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not forget ---Self Discover instead
Tears represent the beginning of the healing process. You are already halfway. First take out a piece of paper and you want to draw a line down the middle and have two heading. First is Good and the second is the bad. Jot down how you feel in ...He was
He was.. Once you see the good and the bad...then write a line through the bad and take only the good from the relationship.
You write the bad down because that tell you how to grow. You take the good because it makes you glow. No that people come into our lives for short period and longer periods. We must always focus on the good they bring ans asked ourselves what did i eperience with that person that I would never have expereince if not for the relationship.
If there is no good. Then you have examine your reason for being in that relationship with that person. Ans you may find a pattern of past relationships. That will tell you what you need to change.
God Bless.
2006-11-02 13:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can ever forget or entirely get over it. I have a good friend who lost her 2 year old cousin to murder and she will always be in your heart, dreams, prayers, and thoughts. You need time to cope and mourn but not make your life all bout it. As for the other woman, hes not for her if he can pick up and leave for someone else. Not saying it doesn't hurt but it will heal also.
Both are bad circumstances and you can't be the judge of which one hurts more or who will hurt longer. People deal in their own way. Just be there for them and be a great friend like you seem to be.
2006-11-02 13:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by momof2inla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the woman who lost her husband is not going to heal fully ever, in my opinion. to lose the person you love the most permanently had to be the most challenging and heartbreaking experience a perso could ever go through. she will get better over time, but there will always be a part of her heart that just isn't there anymore. good friends and family will fill up the rest. as for the other woman, losing her love to another woman is a horrible feeling, but life always has its reasons, so perhaps someone better will come along, or they will get back together sometime down the road.
2006-11-02 13:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by citygirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinon, I think being cheated on hurts more than your love dying. I mean, they die loving you. And when they leave with another person, you'll never ever be the same again. And I thin k that getting cheated on heals faster than you love dying because eventually you'll stop to think about how your so much better than sobbing over a person that hurt you, ya know? And its harder to think about how you'll never see the person who died again. But I think there is no way o healing from a person dying, not to be unoptimistic but its hard to heal from.
2006-11-02 13:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by dotbrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the death probably hurts more but it will heal faster because the other woman still has to think about the guy with the other girl and that is what makes the hurt last longer.
2006-11-02 13:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Cassandra H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a different kind of pain for both losses. When you lose someone to disease you will cry for the rest of your life. The pain is forever there. When you lose someone to another person the pain is more of an anger and you will eventually not be mad anymore. I Think that losing your husband your best friend to a disease that is beyond your control would be a forever pain. always missing that person. knowing that you loved them until the last second and for ever. But if someone left me for someone else I would be pissed and hate him but it wouldn't hurt for that long I would just move on. If my husband died I don't know if I would even re marry. I would miss him everyday. I would not miss someone who cheats and didn't love me to begin with.
2006-11-02 13:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by emtjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that they both hurt the same. Either way, they lost the guy they loved most. Hearts take a while to heal. If i were you, I would be supportive of both of them and do whatever you can to help. =)
2006-11-02 13:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Leah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They both hurt , and all people mourn differently. But when someone dies it is final and you will never see that person again. There is no chance of reconciliation. You will never forget, but the pain eases over time.The person who had a loved one leave them for another, seeing that person will reopen the hurt, also.
They are both losses. Both hurt very badly. But i think death takes longer to heal from, because of the finality, and not being able to speak with that person ever again.
2006-11-02 13:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋