I have been with my boyfriend for six months now and we are engaged. I use to be so happy that is until my ex boyfriend came back around. The more I think about him the less I feel for my current boyfriend. My ex wants to get back together. I have feelings for both of them and I don't know what to do. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago because of our friends (long story). Any advice from people who have been in similar circumstances would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
2006-11-02 05:37:09 · 14 answers · asked by MS JAXN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep. I would break up and take a year off from dating completly. It seems that you feel you need to be with someone all the time. So.. just take a year off and just do things for yourself. Then after that year start fresh and see neither of these guys and you will be a lot happier for it.
It will suck for now... but in the end you will save yourself the heartach of a divorce or cheating on your future hubby.
2006-11-02 05:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think that 6 months is a very short time to accept an engagement from a guy. However I am not a fan for moving back to old flings either. You two broke up for a reason. Therefore I think that if an old fling can make you think twice about your fiancee then you should call off the engagement until you know for sure you want to be with this guy for the rest of your life. You need to take some time for you and realize what you want outta life. I think you should do this asap before you break your fiance's heart and maybe end up messing up a really good man. Good Luck!
2006-11-02 13:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by miss_peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u need to step back from this sistuation and look at it
really long and hard. Think back to the relationship with the Ex
and really look at all the good and bad, and weight it out. Look at do I really want to spend the rest of my life with him or the guy I am with now? Because they say absents makes the heart grow fonder and sometimes when we aren't with that person things seemed better. So really think with your head about this sistuation
because marriage is a long time deal, not well, maybe my ex would have better. The guy u are with deserves better! He gave
u a ring and a life u must have been longing for.
One thing u need to do is find out what your Ex has been doing since u two split up? This will help in the problem, Good Luck!
2006-11-02 13:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nanniekc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're with someone who you made a commitment to. If you have feelings for the ex then I guess you don't feel strongly enough to marry your fiance.
But, you did say that you were happy until the ex starting coming around. Why did you let him back into your life? I guess you need to answer a few questions on your ownand decide which guy (or both) you want to kiss good bye.
2006-11-02 13:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard. It sounds like your break-up with your ex was not a bad one. Oviously you still have feelings for him if you say now you feel less for your current fiance. But if you were to leave your fiance to get back with your ex is he going to give you a happy life? Or are things going to go sour again and then you will once again be left single? The desicion is up to you what to do but hope these pointers help you.
2006-11-02 13:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You my dear are in a very difficult situation right now. The choice that you make now will effect you for the rest of you life. Choose wisely as I think it would be a mistake to go back to the ex.
Same thing happenend to me. I choose my current GF and in time I knew it was the best decision I made
2006-11-02 13:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to think about what it was like when you were with the other guy and what problems you had with him and is it really what you want and are you happy with the new guy that you are seeing now and what problems you have with him.I think you need to fallow you heart and your head your heart will lead you there but your head will have to make the big jump.
2006-11-02 13:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Randall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many girls have been in such circumstances.U r not alone.I had the same problem and I was really confused.U can do only one thing.FOLLOW YOUR HEART......Although u have feelings for both of them u should think before u do anything what will happen if u return to your ex.If u really want to return to your ex think first that you will hurt your fiance and that will make you feel sad too...Think it a lot before u do anything hastily.........Lin from Greece
2006-11-02 13:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the one u got now, i kinda was in that situation a few months ago but i realised he was my EX for a reason, and i remembered why and the hurt etc and then i realised what i got with me now is more than i cud have asked for, and thats my current bf.
2006-11-02 13:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break off the engagement, be honest and sort out your feelings. You are not being fair to anyone including yourself.
2006-11-02 13:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋