what should i do?

Question

hey guys,
right now i'm feeling rather low cuz the man i love did something i didn't quite understand! basically, he's the mail man and today he was with a lady i didn't know! the fact that he was talking to her and walking around with her really hurt me... i don't know whether to call and ask him who she is or to cry! i feel sick right now, to be honest! i think i should just stop talking to him altogether! what do u guys think?

Answer 1

Talk to him first

Just because he is talking to a women doesn't mean he is delivery mail to a diferent box.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you had to see that, but before you do anything drastic, you need to ask him about her. Just casually mention that you saw him walking with her today, and just be like, "Is she a friend of yours?" Don't say it snotty at first, as men REALLY hate being accused of cheating, especially when they're really not. If he acts sort of suspicious or guilty when you first ask him, press him for details, and if it comes out that he is seeing her, break ties off with him immediately!! You may find it in your heart to reconcile after a while, but it would be best to not have to be around him for a while. Really, though, you need to hear his side of the story. What about how they were acting? Was he touching her in a familiar way, or were they just talking? She could very well be a friend. Also, he may just be sort of flirtatious by nature. If that's the case, just let him know that it sort of makes you jealous to see him talking to other women, and he might stop doing it. Good luck!

Answer 3

Ask him in a natural way. "Oh by the way, who was the lady speaking to you? It's the only way to know. If he has nothing to hide, he will tell you but then again, when they do, they lie anyway, so just ask. There is probally nothing going on and you are just jealous cause you say they were just taking and walking. By the way, are you going steady with him? cause you say "the man I love" and "should I stop taking to him" which make me believe you not. If your not steady or dating, then you have not right to ask him, sorry to say. I think if your friends and he hasn't offered you a better position, why are you so down. It seems he was taking to her as he does with you and I also think it's you who got the wrong idea about this relationship. But then, the only way to find out is to ask him how much interest he has in you. GO FOR IT, that way you will know where you stand and "wont suffer" much.

Answer 4

a mailperson is a very social job. And being in the public you will run into people you went to school with, people that used to date your friend, hell people you met at the bank... ask him. If you feel he's being dishonest then maybe do something about it. but if he was just talking to someone it would be nuts to assume he has something going on with this girl.

Answer 5

If your mailman boyfriend isn't allowed to speak with a member of the opposite sex without you feeling hurt, there's a problem- and it's yours. If you can't deal with it, let him go.

Answer 6

I think you need to grow the hell up. He is going to talk to other people and it does not mean a damn thing.

Answer 7

Write him a letter! He'll get the message!

Answer 8

Ask him about it, wait wait before you run and do it, do it Calmly. and stay calm while doing so. : D good luck

Answer 9

Confront, confront, confront!

Answer 10

YES ,ASK,IT MAY NOT BE ANYTHING TO WORRIE ABOUT,AND IF HE IS I WILL BE GLAD TO HOOK UP WITH YOU