my bf broke up with me the thursday before half term we had been seeing each other 3.5months he never gave me a reason why & was just so upset i just turned my mob off we still talk & everything but 2day a really close friend asked me why he did brake up with me & i said i didn't no so i asked him on msn earlier 2day & he just said it was cos things wern't workin out but wat kind of an answer is that so can people please give me ideas on how 2 get a straight answer
2006-11-02 05:30:47 · 25 answers · asked by little miss sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys and males in general don't give straight answers as they really don't know themselves, not worth the worry honey , you are only young get on with your life and have some fun........he was not worth it , so get over it and move on, good luck and god bless.
2006-11-02 05:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a hard pill to swallow. There is often a need to hear 'why' someone has rejected you - but at the end of the day the simple thing to accept is that whilst YOU may have felt more committed to the relationship - your EX-bf was obviously not. It is therefore better to move on and not to fret too much.
Through life we often meet people we may feel deeply about and yet ultimately fail to receive the same recignition/ affection/ reaction from them. It is painful - but it is part of the 'psycho-biological' hunt that the seeking of the perfect pertner (life!) is all about.
Signals may tell one person that someone else is 'suitable' for them but those same signals (which are triggered by physical, emotional, and natural biological factors) may just not work for the other person. This is normal.
If you know in yourself that you are a nice person to be with, a pleasant character, have an attractive dispostion (I am not talking about looks...you may be blessed with good looks too, but these are the less important issue here) then you need to know that there is someone better and more suitable out there for you.
Do not reproach yourself because the feelings you had for someone were not reciprocated.
You are young, free and have so much time to find a new partner, to taste life, to learn...enjoy it and put this guy behind you.
His inability to develop his relationship with you may just be a factor that was borne out of his own lack of preparedness for a serious realtionship and/or emotional immaturity. OR - On the other hand he may just be emotionally mature enough to know he would only have been taking advantage of you if he maintained the relationship whilst not really having his 'heart' in it. In either case it is wiser that he had the sense to end things - and YOU are the better off for this.
Take the view that is most positive and helpful for you to accept things are over and helps you to progress. Rememeber the nice moments you had with this guy - as sweet memories. And focus on the future - there is a world of good people out there - and you will find the person with whom all the pieces fit for BOTH of you in due course.
2006-11-02 05:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesnt wanna give u a straigth answer becos he doesnt have any. Maybe its just a way of breaking up with u or he's got this new girl that he's dissing u for. Neva mind, there are lots of boys out there like that. Dont be let down, just make sure u pick a better one next time. Good luck!!!!
2006-11-02 05:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by teemah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound mean but 3.5 months is a VERY short period and his answer in my opinion is very honest and straightforward do yourself (and him) a favor and let go, just be friends! if it was truly meant to be in time it will be but only if it's left to mother nature.
answering that question can be an extremely difficult ordeal which often destroys any chances of remaining friends.
for example: i very recently got involved and i was very happy for a while BUT the woman turned out to be a habitual liar not only to her friends and family but also to herself, even though i never suspected her of lying to me i ended the relationship.
naturally she was hurt and she desperately wanted to know why?
without thinking and because i liked her i was honest, but when i told her it was because she lies t people, suddenly defense mode kicked in with a vengeance and BAM!! "WHAT DID I LIE ABOUT???" i gave her an example and she apologized and immediately went into salvage mode.
now, i should have said "you tend to lie to people a lot and honesty is very important to me, However we can still friends if you want but being together is just not going to work I'm sorry"
thus avoiding argument and or negotiation
good luck
2006-11-02 06:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by whizbang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably too immature for you - maybe he knows that and feels inferior to you. Or maybe he's just too shallow and stupid to appreciate you. I remember hearing a teenage boy once on a train talking about how he'd broken up with his girlfriend just before her birthday or Christmas (I forget which), and got back together with her afterwards. He never really intended to end things - he just didn't want to buy her a present.
2006-11-02 06:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's the best you're gonna get and quite frankly good riddance to him! Go out with your friends, have a laugh, meet new people, new men.... flirt and revel in the attention!
It's over. And there's no point dwelling over what went wrong, if only I'd done this, if only i said that.... trust me, just get out there and soon you'll forget all about him.
And when people ask what happened with you and him in months to come you'll find yourself saying: "It just didn't work out!"
Que Será, Será....
2006-11-02 05:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, that is the only answer your gonna get. He is not going to offer more then that. Or else he would have already. You could always talk to his friends and find out from them if they know anything. But after only being with him for 3.5 months, I would just let it go and start dating someone else. Blessed be.......... sorry for your break up.
2006-11-02 05:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He gave you a straight answer.... things weren't working out. Did you want him to tell you that he doesn't like you and worse. Except the answer he gives you and move on.
2006-11-02 05:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry i can't but it really does sound like he is avoiding answering you, if you two had sex then it maybe because he got what he wanted or he did it for a dare or something, but then you could always ask his best mate, short of that maybe he was seeing someone else and they ultimated him, so therefore you lost, or maybe your were just boring him and he hasn't the heart to tell you. hope that helps, talk to his mate, discreetly.
2006-11-02 05:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just accept the answer he gave and move on. If you push him he'll only get cross and possibly be mean to you. You really want that?
2006-11-02 06:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋