He has a terrible temper and gets angry at the strangest things. I never know what will make him angry. He says that I "stir things up". I don't know most of the time what he is talking about. If he gets angry, he takes this out on me. Today, I made the remark that he seemed to be sleeping a lot better since I have been home. I went to see my mom for a few days. He told me he could not sleep. It was just an innocent observation. He flew off the handle and said I was starting to make him mad. I do not understand why he gets angry over nothing! He has been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. Would this have something to do with it? He was taking medicine but stopped. He has a nasty temper without his meds. He does not want to take his meds. He does not want to see a doctor and get them. What can I do?
2006-11-02 05:28:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Honey, he is classic bi-polar. They think they are "ok" and stop the meds cause they "don't need them". It will never change. It will always be the same for you, sad to say. But be encouraged, because it's not your fault. None of it. If he gets out of line again, have his *** comitted. Put him in lock down or something or get out of the relationship. I know how you feel (personal experience) and you will always be the blame for everything. Bi-polars have no empathy for anyone and it's all about "them". If you don't have children, leave. If you do, it's just a matter of time before you do leave. Godloveya and prayers for your strength.
2006-11-02 06:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately it's very common for people with bipolar disorder to stop taking their meds, I think more so than any other mood disorder not counting psychosis. The reason as I understand it is because although the "low" moods suck the "high" moods can make a person feel euphoric, energetic, at the top of their game and it feels really really good and they don't want to lose that experience of themself. Newer treatments of bipolar disorder focus more on medicating the depressive episodes while leaving the high moods alone, so long as they don't put that person at risk. I wonder what medication he was prescribed? There may be other medicines that he could try, and if he goes back to the doctor he doesn't HAVE to do what they say, or if the particular doctor he sees isn't any good try another one. If his temper when he's off his meds is a deal-breaker, and it sounds like it sure would be for me, you're going to have to draw a line in the sand and tell him that you cannot deal with him when he's off his meds. Good luck, hope this helps some.
2006-11-02 05:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You can not be expected to put up with a man that is not taking his medicine. Being bi-polar can be controlled,but not without meds. You are in great danger. I know that seems extreme but you have to be caruful. I am sure he is a great man underneath the mood swings from this disorder. You should really sit down with him and decide together to go get help for him so your marriage can survive.Being in an un-healthy marriage is not good for your health,and your mental status. This is effecting you so you need to do something about this. When you have this disorder you can't process things correctly,you can be over defensive and angry about any little thing. My mom suffers from this and growing up with her was a miserable experience. As i became more educated i took her to the therapist where after 2 years we found a medicine to work for her. She was a mean angry mother and i hated her until i realized she wasnt just a ***** she had a problem. So it is normal for him to act this way ,and it is not your fault. Stay strong and help him get help,or get out. I wish you much luck
2006-11-02 05:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by mommyofsix 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you answered you own question. He stopped his meds. When a person is in a mental health crisis......they do not see their own behavior as bad.
You need to call 9-1-1 when he gets angry. Have them transport him to the hospital. If he acts up there, they can put him on a 72 hour psych hold and get his doctor over there to talk to him. Maybe they can get him back on his meds.
If this doesn't work...then the only other thing you can do is leave. You cannot stay there with him off his meds. People die that way and he is only going to get worse. Don't think it can't happen. I've worked too many crimes scenes.
2006-11-02 05:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being bipolar and off meds can definitely contribute to that sort of behavior. It's very frustrating when a person you care about refuses the help they know they need. It is sometimes very challenging to be in a relationship with someone with bp...and off their meds can make it nearly impossible. I have been living with bipolar my whole life and am very involved in managing my illness, I've done crazy amount of research on it. There really is no way around needing medication to maintain stability with this often very debilitating condition.
I would have to disagree with the response stating bipolar people have no empathy. I think that generalizes way too much, but I can see how it might appear to be the case during times of high stress/ serious symptoms/ crisis. Overall, I am an incredibly empathetic person, it is one of my best traits. But I am still, without a doubt, bipolar.
2006-11-02 09:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was there an incident surrounding you going to your moms? Perhaps he sees it as sarcasm and not Love???? Either way.......
My mom used to always say nothing wrong with being sick as long as your not laying in the gutter so yes, he needs to get back on his meds and you have every right as is wife to seek help from the courts if he doesn't. If you can't live with it and or feels he is endangering himself or others please help him.Theres no cure and it may take years but the chances are some medication will help to make life more bearable. There are two types of people who refuse medication and they are those who give up on living and those in denial. Insist he get another Dr's opinion and be sure to sit in on the interview.
2006-11-02 05:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by I don't get it 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this anger issue can be connected to his bi-polar disorder because they have severe highs and lows. A bi-polar person who is not medicated can exhibit these severe symptoms. He needs to seek professional help and he needs to be properly medicated. You either deal with him not being on his meds or you don't. That's a decision that you have to make for yourself, but know this, if he doesn't get help and get back on medication for his bi-polar disorder, his behavior will not get better and based on that information you have to make your decision. I work at a counseling center and have seen your situation before, good luck with your situation and on your decision.
2006-11-02 05:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would get support for yourself. It may be a while before he hits bottom and realizes he needs help. A program that can possibly help both you and he is The Peace Plus Program. The URL is www.peaceplusprogram.com.
Also, anger is caused by judgementalism. As soon as he learns to stop judging himself and others, the anger will stop.
Vince
2006-11-02 06:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Vincent J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this has a lot to do with. Being bipolar causes rapid mood swings. He needs to get on his medication. Many people with these types of disorders are in denial that they have a problem.
I will be praying for you that you can talk some sense in him to go and see a psychiatrist and get on some medication to stabilize his mood.
2006-11-02 13:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's probably because he's not taking his meds anymore. you should talk to his doctor about this. his mad temper is probably a result of withdrawing from his medicine. sounds like he might need his medicine back. i have been on both sides of your situation, so i know how u feel. i would talk to his doctor about starting him on another medication. i hope this helped....good luck with everything !
2006-11-02 05:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Queen of Halloween 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋