WOULD YOU WANT TO LIVE if YOU KNEW that YOU'D NEVER GET a GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND and REMAINED A VIRGIN FOR LIFE?

Question

I'm a 23 year old Stanford college student. I have never had a girlfriend nor have I ever danced with or kissed a girl. Unfortunately, I will remain a virgin for the rest of my life because I have no social skills because they were never developed during the critical years of adolescence and also due to my short height (5'5"). Girls ignore me at all cost and call me 'creepy.' College life for me is hell.

If you knew that you'd remain a virgin for life without ever having a girlfriend or boyfriend (lover, mate, ect.) would you want to live? - and why? They say that romantic love is the greatest thing anyone can experience but if you are denied this basic experience then whats the point of living? I'm sick of staying alive just for my parents - I feel more like a domesticated animal than an actual human being.

This question especially goes out to those who have had dates and romantic relationships in the past. If you knew you'd never have any of that would you want to live?

I'm an agnostic, so "living for god, jesus, mohammed, buddha" is absolutely out of the question for me. What would I do? -Live in a monastary praising something that denied me human love and happiness?

Answer 1

I was fine until it actually happened when I was 22.

Living is necessary. Dating is a bonus.

Stick to your beliefs.

Answer 2

Well you don't have to be a virgin. Watch Cathouse on HBO for more detail. Or look it up online. I am 24 and still a virgin so I know a little bit about what you are talking about. I have to ask you and really think about it. Is all there is to life sex and procreation. I don't believe that and to my core I have never felt like those were the only things of meaning. I want to live because sex and having a girlfriend are not the only things I am looking for. So I ask you if you did have sex or get a girlfriend/boyfriend, would that make your life complete? Are your only thoughts dedicated to that one purpose?
Part of the problem is the under-developed social skills, but there are places you can get help. Social Anxiety is fixable, in order to move forward you must stop carrying around what holding you back. You keep putting bad thoughts about yourself into your head and they start to weigh you down. Its' really not about finding a girlfriend or being a virgin, but about being able to. Find a therapist in your area that deals with social anxiety or loneliness. It's not a weakness to seek help it is a strength.

Answer 3

The fact that we are living and breathing and able to do all these things. The fact that we are not rocks and some divine coincidence made use who we are instead of some inorganic atom. The fact we can give things worth. We can categorise. Its all beautiful, the sight, the sound, the feel, the emotion, the taste. Even pain. We can feel that not many other things can. Pain may be painful, but we can feel it just as we can feel happy. Its amazing really that out of all of this we can do these things. Although it seems to suck sometimes its still wonderful. random fact: if you shoot a rabbit, it doesnt know why it feels pain, it doesn't register that there is an explanation, it just knows it feels pain and as a reaction will run away, even if its dying. Shoot a human (even if they did not know what a gun was) it would realise its something launched, have some sort or knowledge of what to do and so on. I dont think this was relevant but its written now... But if youre looking for one reason it would definitely be pie.

Answer 4

i know of short dudes 5 foot 5 to 5 foot 7 that get girls all the time. you just need to try and act more confidence and people will barely notice your height. dont let what others think get to you so much. you only got one shot at this life so you need to pull up your damn bootstraps and get on with it already.

do you realize how lucky you are to be getting an education at Stanford University. luckier than about 99.9 % of the worlds population.

i know you are feely down but you just need to think that you could have been born in a third world country and live in a dirt hut and be hungry all the time and probably die a young and painful death from disease or hunger

try online dating or try to go to some place on campus to develop your social skills- the library is an awesome place to meet people- just ask someone for some help finding something or ask them a question about a class they are in- the worse that can happen as they could ignore you or something

join a social group or study group to meet people- pick something you are interested in so you really enjoy it and are happy to be there

there is so much to live for besides relationships that they are just an added bonus- remember the hearbreak that can come with them

Answer 5

No religious beliefs? Dude hit up Craigslist - Erotic Services
Spend a couple C notes and get laid.

The right person is out there for everyone you just have to be "out" there to find them. Don't go crawl in a hole because a couple chicks don't find you attractive.

Sure Bill Gates wasn't the hot pick at college either but a couple Billion later and Bill has a wife and I'm sure if he wanted several chicks on the side.

Answer 6

Ya know, i said the same thing when i was 23...then i lost my virginity and found my soulmate 4 girls after all within one year. Go figure. BUT....unless you can see into the future, and you have 100% legitmate evidence that you will stay a virgin for life and never find love....then yea you wouldn't wanna live either..BUT....you're still alive....which obviously means you still have a choice to either die a legacy...or die a pathetic fool who never gave life a chance to be taken by the balls and made into something great.
Dude if you're wanting to find some bodacious model with big tatas, goddess like features and a vagina of sweet tight succulence...then YEA your gonna not find love cause you're not lookin in the right places.
As far as your inability to be social, there's over 6 billion people on this earth, i'm pretty sure there's at least 1 million of em with the same problem or share the same qualities as you..and they're the opposite sex, AND they'll be your type, AND if you bump into each other you'll have something worthwhile.
If girls call you creepy, they're stupid, i mean unless you're streaking down the hallway, and telling people you'd love to screw a corpse, then.....you might wanna tune your conversations to people who share the same morbid qualities. College is hell my friend i know this...i was through it...also...YOUR IN STANFORD....i may be biased, but dammit i'm pretty sure most the people there are snobbish, stuck-up bastids with a superiority complex....why would you even CONSIDER that as a playing field for love?
As a solution...i would advice this.....finish this arduous task known as college, get the hell out....fulfill your career and make it priority....THEN, once in stable position, TRAVEL, go around the world, enjoy the scenery,ESPECIALLY THE PEOPLE....you may be reserved and weird...but that's only the the people who judge you in THAT ONE area.....you have to have patience my friend. I was treated like SH*T by a lot of women when i was in san antonio, i ended up going into the military, my first base was panama city florida, and i end up finding a woman who was JUST LIKE ME, and i can gladly call my soulmate...just cause you're life is in shambles NOW doesn't mean it will ALWAYS be like that.
Besides your 23, i was a virgin at that age..and then lost it on valentine's day (ironically enough.) I felt the same way as you did and now my life on the lovelife side is fulfilled... and ironically enough i kinda gave up on love altogether at that point and ignored it, and it decided to show it's face when i kicked it to the curb..go figure. Sometimes i wonder if love's a woman in disguise....ANYWAY
You can always develop your social skills man, it's called risks, no pain no gain as they say, if you don't give the effort to just take the embarrasment (which really isn't, cause people who react negatively are just the typical assholes you need to avoid in the FIRST place), and just go for the goal, you'll be fine....you can't be rico suave on the first effort to converse, it takes many many times....i'm pretty sure freakin don juan wasn't a natural wooer on his first attempts..everyone has their practice days....how can you be good if you've never tried no?
And as far as the agnostic comment, you don't have to go to god if you can't find love...hell there's a country here who needs an honest president..why not try for that.....there's people's lives that need support, an answer, why not find out how to do that....your a stanford man...it accounts for SOMETHING...your brains could do the world much good to us used for its brilliance, rather than deteriorating (if i spelled that right) 6 feet deep in dirt wasted on the ignorant concept of uselessness and unloved...until life has taken you away, you still amount for something, most people die around 60 or so..that's a LOT OF YEARS for you to accomplish great things....don't waste it on something feeble. Good luck to ya.

Answer 7

You can't live your life in a non stop pity party.Sorry but it isn't your height(or lack Of) but your attitude on life.You said short girls are ugly, so who are you to accuse others of not showing you simple kindness and respect when you are devoid of these qualities yourself. Put more energy into helping others, share your talents and care about others.You say you are a Standford student and I must assume you are intelligent. I can't feel sorry for you because you seem more content to wallow in self pity.Until you can like and love yourself you wil remain a lonely man. A relationship requires you care for others as well. Visit and volunteer a burn unit and see people who will be disfigured for life and they are willing to endure severe pain to live. My husbands nephew was only 6 when he was severely burned and went through hell just to live. Cry on someone else's shoulder.

Answer 8

First of all... you gotta stop putting yourself down. Stop telling yourself that BS about never gonna get a gf cuz u got no social skills, & u gonna die a virgin! Its making me sick. My bf is 5'4", just like ME! Not all girls look for guys that are taller than they are. Live life like there is no tomorrow!

Im sure you can talk to girls, you just dont practice with anyone (meaning you are too shy to talk to them). Give it a chance.

Let me knwo if it works out for ya.

Answer 9

You're the only one that denied yourself of anything. Dude, please just get over yourself. There are plenty of short women who would adore you, so get your butt out there and find them.

I'm sorry, but I don't pity you at all. Your description of your situation is pathetic. You're freaking going to Stanford, man! You must have a buttload of money or killer brains, because that's a really good school. There are so many people who would kill to have what you do.

Answer 10

yes, if i'm you i will still continue to live no matter what cause i've not gone through any better than you but life is worth living if we want too and it's just the matter of living the best of it. no matter whatever circumstances you are in you still should learn to be thankful and blessed than many cause you have not seen the real side of this world. ending your life is never an ending to any problems cause the consequences are even more unbearable.

Answer 11

do you have friends? ask them for an appraisal of what you're doing wrong. if you have a job, don't have a horrible personality, and not extremely shy you can find a girl without too many problems. really.

perhaps you should lower your standards in women. that's an easy way.

get a job if you have no social circle and you will meet women.

good luck.
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